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Be Careful What You Wish For


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Be Careful What You Wish For or You Just May Get it so the saying goes!

Seated quietly in a romantic corner of a dimly lit restaurant was a married couple in their 60s. They brought their glasses of champagne together in a toast. There was every reason to celebrate. It was their 30th wedding anniversary that day.

In a whiff of smoke, a tiny yet beautiful fairy appeared before them, hovering over the table. She said, “For being such an exemplary married couple and for being loving to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish.”

The wife clapped her hands in delight. She answered first, “Oh, I would like to travel the world with my darling husband.”

The fairy waved her magic wand over the elderly woman, who instantly found two round-the-world air tickets in her hands.

It was now the husband’s turn. He reflected for a moment and then said “Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will never come again.”

He decided to bare his innermost desires.

He said, “My wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me.”

The fairy answered, “Your wish is my command.”

She waved her magic wand over the man.

Puff! The husband became 90 years old.

Some Background to “Be Careful What You Wish For”

The joke above is also one of many that can be found, illustrating the phrase “Be Careful What You Wish For”. A little research on the web reveals that this phrase is used in a number of sources such as in the story the Monkey’s Paw; a classic horror story written by W.W. Jacobs, which first appeared in Harpers Monthly in 1902. The story begins with the quote “Be careful what you wish for, you may receive it” – attributed by the author to Anonymous. Thus, there is no telling who the originator of the phrase is.

Now, for the purposes of discussion on this site, let us examine this phrase in relation to intention and manifestation, as follows:

1. The Importance Of Finding Out Your Real Desire
2. Why You Get What You Do Not Wish For
3. You Have No Idea What To Wish For
4. Going For A Wish That Merely Satisfies The Selfish Ego.

1. The Importance Of Finding Out Your Real Desire

Through the many posts previously discussed, we already know about the power of our thoughts. Thoughts are creative. If we want to manifest something, we do so with intention and sustained focus.


 

However, on the flip side, it also means that we have to be very clear in what we wish for. We may end up with something that we actually do not want. While our manifestation can become a reality, it may also bring with it other problems and headaches.

Say for example, you see having lots of money, as a ticket out of your miserable and stressful job. You set an intention to start a successful business. Applying the principles of the Law of Attraction, you end up attracting truckloads of customers. But because you mistakenly thought that money is your primary aim, you do not choose a business that you are truly passionate in. You end up in a situation that you can barely cope in terms of hours spent at work, doubly stressed than before.

But what if you have set the higher intention of finding fulfilling work, something that you are keen or passionate in? Because you are good in what you do, you start to attract lots of customers who appreciate your work. You no longer see the hours you spent as work but rather as an extension of yourself.

Hence, it is important to spend time having a clear understanding of your real desire, before starting to make an intention. More about how to find an alignment will be discussed later down this article.

2. Why You Get What You Do Not Wish For

Far too often, we experience things and situations that we do not want. It is important to know why this is the case: what we align ourselves with emotionally are the outcomes we manifest.

Hence, if your thoughts tend to be negative and you back them up emotionally, you are more likely to attract negative situations. For instance, if you have been unconsciously been focusing on lack and worrying over your finances, your physical reality is not going to be one of abundance.

You can also observe if your thoughts have been negative by the words that you say. If you utter “I wish ______ ” in anger consistently, you may just get what you wish for.

3. You wanted Blue and Yellow But Got Green

In the book, The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham by Esther and Jerry Hicks, it is stated that you will get all the results that you want, if you are clear about everything that you want. But it can be the case that you have no clear idea of what is it that you really desire. In your confusion, you are not able to determine what your underlying intents are.

Here is the example cited in the book. You say, “I want the color yellow, and I want the color blue”. But what you ultimately end up with is green. And then you ask, “How did I get green? I did not intend that at all.” But what actually happened was due to the blending of your various intentions. (Blending the color yellow blue gives you the color green).

The solution that is offered by Abraham in the book? Check with your inner Being. Only your inner Being can sort out the complexities of your thoughts. It does this by guiding your emotions. Hence, pay close attention to the way you feel, and let yourself be drawn to the things that feel good or right to you. At the same time, let yourself move away from those things that do not.

Allow me to share how I have been making some of my decisions lately. In considering my options, I ask myself: Is my intent/desire for the fulfillment of my ego or is it one that is for the growth of my Soul (love, light and peace)? Having a guideline keeps me from getting distracted and making a poor choice. I have every intent to elevating myself (or my Being) energetically and making decisions that align with my Highest Path and Purpose.

4. A Possible Scenario: Going For A Wish That Merely Satisfies The Selfish Ego

Ambition is a Dead Sea Fruit
And the greatest peril to the soul is that
one is likely to get precisely what he is seeking.
— By Edward Dahlberg

You cannot get it off your mind. A longing that hovers in your thoughts, day and night. You toy with your options. You try to figure out how to get the prize. At first, just a gentle idea, the longing soon becomes an obsession, a craving.

In your desperate moments, you consider selling your soul for it. Yet, deep down inside, you suspect that guilt will creep in if you take a drastic measure.

You finally make a decision. You cannot bear it any longer! The wait is just too much to bear. You are willing to take a chance.

You taste the pleasure, the thrill of the moment, the pinnacle of your human experience; the means gotten through the betrayal of your friends, the loss of your conscience, and the hurt that you inflict. Your ego is satiated.

You are happy. Then, you decide that you would like to share your happiness. Let others know. You go around with your prized catch. Your ego needs to know that others will be struck with envy.

But you find no one now. All of whom you have held dear before. They shut you out, just like how and what you have done to them.

It’s okay, your ego says. You have got me and you have got the prize.

So, you sit. At first, happy and then, dismay by the loneliness that now engulfs.

In the quietness, you finally hear a soft whisper: Is the sacrifice worth it?

Knowing arises: the gain of the ego but the loss of love and the shrinking of your Soul. Emptiness ensues. The prize has now become meaningless.

Your Thoughts Please

Do share your thoughts to the phrase “Be Careful What You Wish For”. Do you know what you really want out of your life? How do you determine these things for sure?

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Irene | Light Beckons - October 23, 2008

I’ve had some experiences with having my wishes come true, only to realize later that they’re too literal for my own comfort. Those incidents have taught me to be more patient with my thoughts and to frame my prayers more appropriately. They’ve also taught me that wishes can be powerful stuff and we have to use them wisely!

Daniel Richard - October 24, 2008

I believe that wishes should be way specific to ensure that we get what we wanted.

There’s a running joke where an unemployed person went up to a pastor asking him to pray to be in a job. The pastor immediately laid hands on the guy and said “Lord, bless him with a job as a roadsweeper!”

And the guy rejected it totally only to be asked by the pastor to be more specific in his requests to prevent from such an incident to happen again. 🙂

Vered - MomGrind - October 24, 2008

“Do you know what you really want out of your life? How do you determine these things for sure?”

I do know what I want. It’s quite simple really: I want a long and healthy life for me and for my loved ones. All the rest is just not very important.

It’s a good wish to have, because there’s a lot that we can do to achieve it: eat healthy, exercise, and relax. The relaxation part is still tricky for me, but that’s one good reason why I read this blog. 😉

Bonnie Marcus - October 24, 2008

The Laws of Attraction are very powerful and it is important to clarify what it is we want to attract and in order to do so we should connect with our authentic selves and values. This blog is a great reminder.

Evelyn - October 24, 2008

@Irene, thanks for sharing your personal experiences. We really have to learn how to make more effective prayers and getting our wishes answered according to our real intent.

@Daniel, lovely story that you’ve shared!!

@Vered, I am honored that you are reading my blog. From the last post that you’ve written on yours, I wasn’t sure if you’re going to be visiting my site ever again…lol!! I’m glad that you know exactly what you want. It is also what I really like about you – confidence and having a sense of who you are!

@Bonnie, thanks for liking this post and finding it a good reminder to clarify what it is that we really want to attract!

Friar - October 24, 2008

In all those stories, the genie/fairy/monkey’s paw/leprauchan granting the wish is always some kind of sneakly, malevolent being, who just ends up MESSING with people’s lives.

Just for once, I’d love to read about a benefactor who is NOT a total A-hole, and just MAKES the people HAPPY!

Moral of the story is: if someone grants you a wish, it’s probably too good to be true. So Never, EVER accept it!

Or if you do, then get yourself a good lawyer, and get your wish in writing, signed, stamped and notarized.

And leave yourself some legal loopholes to get out of it if you’re not happy. (Perhaps a 24 hour trial period).

Lance - October 24, 2008

Oh Evelyn, what a wonderful post. Knowing what we really want out of life – is a journey for us. A journey into our souls, and one that changes as we change… Do I know what I want? Right now I want for my family to live a long, healthy, and prosperous life. And to live their dreams out. I guess that is similar to Vered. That probably wasn’t my dream many years ago, before I had children of my own. And that dream may change as I grow older.

The idea of blue and yellow making green – what a powerful concept when thinking about our thoughts. How often do I do that, where the end result is not what I wanted at all…So much to think about.

Vinay Raj - October 24, 2008

I believe in wishing a wish – outcome of which is beneficial to all concerned.
The idea of blue and yellow turning into green is selfish and confused wishing.
Wishing is a thought energy it has to manifest any how so why not wishing for something which will benefit all!
Great post Evelyn once again.

Brian - October 24, 2008

Evelyn,

I needed to read this today. I have been stuck in negative thoughts for several hours and this post has reminded me that I need to focus on the positive.

Thank you…

Brian

PeaceLoveJoyBliss - October 24, 2008

Hi Evelyn, I have a little difficulty with the internal consistency of your story. If the couple is happily married “for being such an exemplary married couple and for being loving to each other for all this time”, wouldn’t it make more sense for the husband to say “my wish is to have my wife 30 years younger than me” rather than “my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me”? And wouldn’t the beautiful fairy, in a gesture of good will, grant the wish to the husband in the spirit in which it was intended?

Other than that, your analysis is breathtakingly crisp and smart. You know the ego very well, it seems, and you draw upon its failings, to illustrate important truths. I really enjoy your command of this topic.

Love and light (and truth),
Christopher

Arturo Gonzalez - October 24, 2008

I don’t want to sound like a Star Wars geek (I guess I am) but Obi Wan Kenobi put it well:

“Be Mindful of Your Thoughts my young Padawan!”

Many blessings,

Art Gonzalez
Check my Squidoo Lens at: Quantum Knights

Evelyn - October 24, 2008

@Frair, it is interesting that you saw the fairy in this story as sneaky even while she is malevolent. Is she not obeying the instructions of the man making the story?

@Lance, our dreams and wishes do change over the years. With personal breakthroughs and age, we also see things in better light. Increasingly, we choose to value what’s really most healthy to the growth of our Souls.

I like the analogy of the blending of the two colors too. I’ve also been thinking about it, of how being unclear in my wishes has produced the “greens” in my life.

@Vinay, read what I said to Lance about the colors. The idea of blue and yellow blending is definitely a product of confused thinking. We need to spend time asking ourselves what colors we really want: blue, yellow or maybe even green.

Evelyn - October 24, 2008

Christopher, although I wasn’t the one who first published this storyline, let me hazard a guess. The man depicted in it is finally showing his true colors (or rather, what he truly wants), when he is put to the test. He was really wishing for someone ELSE much younger, while keeping his current age.

I spent almost the whole day yesterday closely watching my ego, thoughts and emotions. Excellent exercise to revisit on a regular basis for myself. In all humbleness, thank you for liking this post!

Love, light and truth,
Evelyn

Evelyn - October 24, 2008

@Brian, I’m glad that this post has been timely for you. Hope you feel better soon!

@Art, I like Star Wars too 🙂

Karen Swim - October 24, 2008

Evelyn, I had never heard that joke. I love it! This was truly powerful and I can certainly admit that there have been many times I have gotten something I did not want because I did not have clarity. When I looked back I realized I may have “wished” for something but my actions did not align with my true desires. There are so many wonderful teaching points in your article to savor and apply. Thank you Evelyn for helping me to continue to grow.

Patricia - October 24, 2008

Very nice post, well thought out and instructive. Clarity is so wonderful and so is the journey to achieve it.
One of my daughter’s has a lesion in her brain inhibiting long term memory retrieval. As difficult has this has made her life, there have been many lessons to learn from it also. She believes everyone is telling the truth/you realize money is just symbolic and really only has the meaning we give it, and when she made up her mind she wanted something – she always got it …always!
Now she is learning how to integrate ideas and thinking, and although I believe her life will be healthier in the long run (and safer) it is interesting to witness someone in their 20s learning about fear and personalities and the un-believable things in life…
Gifts on both sides of a many faceted issue.
Thank you for your good writing and information.

Robin - October 24, 2008

Hi Evelyn

At one point I wanted a light green medium size car, and was “seeing” it parked outside my flat, in an attempt at manifesting it. Then a neighbour got the kind of car I wanted, and it would be parked outside my flat. Huh! (I should have been more specific)

Evelyn - October 24, 2008

@Karen, I’m glad that you like this post and managed to find some gems for learning.

@Patricia, thanks for sharing about your daughter. How fascinating!! I can see how a mind that is obviously not cluttered and limited by fears and negativity will do a much better job in manifesting. Your daughter is blessed to have a mom like you, who can assist her in seeking the balance that she needs.

@Robin, what a great illustration of how important it is for us to be clear in our desires!! Thanks for sharing! If you are still wanting the light green medium sized car, I hope you get it soon!!

Wendi Kelly-Life's Little Inspirations - October 24, 2008

Evelyn,

I can admit that every pot of hot water I have found myself in is because of a wish or desire that I had made, a path I had happily started skipping down without examining all the possible consequences

When you start to see that *wishes* have power, it can be very frightening at first,some folks want to run the other way and say, well then, I shall wish for nothing so that I won’t have to endure the consequences. Well friends, wishing for nothing is a wish too. Inaction also will get you somewhere. It will get you in the dismal field of the gray zone where Life happens TO you and you are tossed along as bramble in the wind.

We MUST wish or risk others making wishes on us.

By the way…you have the most remarkable pictures all the time.

Azhagiya Tamilmagan - October 24, 2008

“Be Careful What You Wish For” could be trying to say that we are consciously and unconsciously creating our reality, every single moment of our life since we know the law of attraction is working at all times. We might been thinking about something which then could have started to happen.

Tom Volkar / Delightful Work - October 24, 2008

I don’t like to use that phrase because it sounds like spiritual finger pointing and there is enough of that kind of judgment going around. I put it in the same bag as when someone smugly asks, how did you attract that? You may not have given permission for that kind of meddling.

But I get your point and it’s useful information for all to know. Attraction is a much attacked manifestation concept yet I have not heard of a better mindset from any of its detractors.

I like your closing questions. I do know what I want from life and it keeps changing as I grow and understand more.
I don’t think there is any sure way to determine what we want other than to match up values, strengths and desires so that we are at least aligned within. Then we take action and adjust.

That’s what participants of my course get. Right action, aligned with the discovery of who they are and how they can leverage that in business. Thanks for the recommendation!

Dot - October 24, 2008

You always challenge my thinking. I’m not good at controlling my thoughts. It feels like my thoughts and emotions control me. I have noticed a couple of times that I wished for something and I got *literally* what I wished for rather than what I really wanted.

Evelyn - October 24, 2008

@Wendi Kelly, you’ve offered a very interesting perspective “wishing for nothing is a wish too”. I’d tend to agree. I remember vaguely that I read somewhere about this too; so I would like thank you for reminding me about it.

Having the right pictures on my site is important to me. If you’ve been following my site, you’d know that I am a visual person. I spend a lot of time ploughing through images to get the right one to go along with each post. It’s lovely that you like my choices too!

@Azhagiya, you’ve summarized beautifully what I was trying to say in this post! Thanks!

@Tom, at first look, I did not like the phrase too. It has a negative feel to it. But I decided to put my fears aside and really examined it objectively.

I’d agree that with understanding and looking more deeply, what we want and desire sharpens with clarity as time goes on. I’m happy to make the recommendation to your program, because I already know that you share the same thoughts about creating an authentic business that aligns with our strengths, values and core beliefs.

@Dot, in truth, I’m writing my posts as such because I’m at the same time challenging myself in these very topics!! I’m glad that you have found my posts thought-provoking. This is the whole idea. To invite you to consider your various options, so that you can make a conscious decision.

Well, based on your feedback to this post, it’s time to sit down and really think what your authentic Self wants and make an intent to move towards these desires.

Andrea Hess|Empowered Soul - October 25, 2008

I’ve had an interesting month, in alignment with the concept of “be careful what you wish for.” I was dealing with a difficult personal situation that put me into a very egoic place – so I prayed for “detachment.” Wouldn’t you know it … I kept losing things, including some money, a relationship ended … it was like everything went away. After about ten days of this I realized – what better way to learn about detachment than to recognize that in spite of all these perceived losses, I could choose to be happy! And I was! As soon as that message clicked, everything came back into my life within a few days, even the relationship that I thought was over.

We do get what we ask for. I think it’s always in our highest good, although we may only recognize this in hindsight. So let’s not stop asking! 🙂

Blessings,
Andrea

Simon - October 25, 2008

This is a very useful post. You make it clear that finding your highest intention/checking with your inner being is key. If you don’t wish for what you really want deep down, then negative feelings are likely to get in the way. And even if you should get this wish, it won’t make you happy. Thanks for this – and thanks for visiting my blog.

Marelisa - October 25, 2008

Hi Evelyn: What you say here is very true. Sometimes I stop myself in the middle of a thought and ask myself: Is this something that I would want to manifest in the next three minutes? If the answer is “no” I stop thinking of it right away. I also agree that we tend to send mixed signals as to what we really want. It’s like being in a restaurant and changing our order every five minutes. How on earth will the waiter know what to bring?

Jannie - October 25, 2008

It’s true that it’s the process moreso than the end result that will give you the most satisfaction. Sure works for me.

Flora Morris Brown, Ph.D. - October 25, 2008

I’ve been blessed to have attracted many wonderful things and experiences into my life, and some not so wonderful. From the day I learned to take responsibility and look for the lesson in my experiences, I am better able to see events as neutral since it’s how I view them that determines their value.

A few decades ago I committed myself to being authentic. That means being honest with myself and focusing on what I really want to experience. I know I’m on the right track when I feel what I call “the click.” It’s an inner feeling affirming my wish, plan or dream is right. If I don’t feel the click but proceed any way, the results are not so great.

Evelyn - October 25, 2008

@Andrea, thanks for sharing what has happened to you personally. I’m so glad to learn that you’ve managed to learn important lessons, despite your bad experiences.

Being afraid of this phrase “be careful what you wish for” should not prevent us from asking what we wish for. On the contrary, being aware of it helps us be aware of and pay attention to what we are consciously creating.

@Simon, I’m glad that the idea to connect with our inner Beings resonate well with you. Thanks too for visiting my blog!

@Marelisa, I like your input about ordering in a restaurant. Rightly put. How would the Universe know what we really wish to order and eat?

Evelyn - October 25, 2008

@Jannie, can you explain more about what you said in relation to this post?

@Flora, I wish to thank you for sharing what you’ve written. Your words resonate so well. I’m hoping to enter a stage whereby I can view things as they are. Like you said, it’s understanding how I attach meanings to them.

Also, like you, I value authenticity. I may take a longer time to make some of my decisions nowadays. But when there is an inner click, I know it is all systems GO!

Miss. Bridget - October 25, 2008

Dear Evelyn

It is true you should be careful about what you wish for because sometimes what you wish for does not happen or come then you are disappointed or you aree going in the right path to obtain it but road blocks sits in your path to block your progress. For instance like the man which was described in the storey above. He probably wanted his woman to be 30 years old while he remained the actual age he originally was oppose to himself being 30 years older than his wife.
Sincerely
Miss. Bridget C. Biggins

Davina - October 25, 2008

Hi Evelyn. There is a lot of truth here. And it works the other way too, as I know you know. Emotions and feelings are connected. That is why so often asking for what you want DOESN’T happen either. If a person asks but doesn’t really feel connected to the asking through their feelings, or doesn’t believe they deserve what they are asking for, chances are it won’t manifest.

Evelyn - October 25, 2008

@Miss Bridget, the message in this post is that we create or manifest all that is happening to us. So it is important to pay attention to what we wish for and be precise in what we really want.

@Davina, in the post I wrote “what we align ourselves with emotionally are the outcomes we manifest”. Implicitly, on the reverse and as what you’ve correctly pointed out, if we do not feel connected to what we ask for, we are unlikely to manifest these desires. Glad that we are in agreement here 🙂

Michelle Lee - October 26, 2008

Nice post Evelyn, thank you.
I think it’s important also to focus on the essence of what we want. The essence of more money may be peace and security. Focusing on the essence can assure as that we get what we want. When we focus on the money we are thinking that it will bring us peace and security but we may have no idea what will really bring it to us. More money may bring just the opposite.
Blessings,
Michelle

SpaceAgeSage -- Lori - October 26, 2008

Basically, I try to let go and let God. The Creator has my back (and everything else), so my job is to follow my dreams, learn to love more deeply, and let go of worry. — It isn’t easy, but the closer I get to it, the better each day is.

Evita - October 27, 2008

Hi Evelyn!

First let me say what a gorgeous picture you chose for this article – it just makes my heart sing!

And secondly what a great topic! Indeed I have seen this play out in life over and over again. People speak very quickly of what they want sometimes, but have not given their desire any reflection or thought as to the possible outcomes…

And Abraham Hicks’ material is always amazing to read and use in life – I value it so much!!!!

So life lesson to all – the Universe is always listening – may we be the ones who are sure we are fully aware of what we ask for.

J.D. Meier - October 27, 2008

Hey Evelyn – great write up! Wishing is easy and fuzzy. Knowing what you really want and what that would mean is a great exercise to bring in some high-definition. Whenever I work with somebody who’s wishing for a different scenario, I show them how to make it happen, by first having a vision of the end in mind, then taking action. I warn them to be careful because they just might get what they wish for (it’s happend to me too many times — I asked a pebble of a wish and got the wrong end of a gong.) To get clarity, I start simple with … What do you want? What don’t you want? What would good look like? That starts the exercise.

Cath Lawson - October 27, 2008

Hi Evelyn – another hilarious example – serves the guy right. You’re right – a lot of it is really knowing what we want. And also, not winding up with the opposite of what we want, because we’re so desperate to end a bad situation. I find that the toughest thing to do.

Evelyn - October 27, 2008

@Michelle, well said. We really need to examine our core reasons, the very essence of why we wish to pursue money for instance. Money has no value on its own. It is the meaning that we give it. Discovering the meaning/essence is important so that we do not end up manifesting stuff on the side that we do not want.

@Lori, I definitely like the description of your job. Sounds like a great one to me!!

@Evita, I’m glad that you like the picture that I have selected to go with this post. Hmmm…you’ve just given me a thought….it’ll be nice to create a similar image with my kids in it. Oh yes…let us be fully aware of what we should be asking the Universe for!

Evelyn - October 27, 2008

@J.D. Meier, your comment “I asked a pebble of a wish and got the wrong end of a gong” had me laughing! Thanks for sharing how you have been helping your clients. Yes…good idea to start simple and from very basic questions!

@Cath, well put! Wanting to get out of a bad situation certainly does not justify us wishing for the first way out. Having clarity in what and why we wish for something is key!

Slade | Shift Your Spirits - October 27, 2008

Oh, this happened to me just last week. I have been working on a slightly decrepit hand-me-down 5 year old Dell laptop for the past year. I’d been steadily putting aside money to buy my dream Mac laptop, holding out for the most responsible time to splurge and get the top of the line in the near future. But I was increasingly annoyed with the performance issues and swearing I’d never go back to Windows again… Wishing to switch back to Mac in both my home based and mobile workspace… Well, my wishes were answered — my little old jalopy finally crashed, and I found myself no longer wanting but actually needing. Pressured and stressed to splurge wasn’t quite how I envisioned it, but I did get what I wanted. (I’m actually pretty thrilled, but I could’ve handled the thought forms I put out there a little more carefully.
🙂
Slade

Evelyn - October 28, 2008

Slade, glad that you got what you wanted in the end; although as you’ve shared, you could have done without the extra stress!

I’ve been liking the Mac more and more!! While I have a windows PC, I am increasingly working out of a Mac laptop. Let’s just say that I’ve been lucky to find one that is lying around in my house for me to use it!

Thanks for sharing!

Love, light and truth,
Evelyn

Caroline - October 29, 2008

Clarity is key! I found that creating a vision map was extremely helpful. I am more visual and this really helped to see my goals in pictures…that way I got yellow and blue!

Pink Ink - October 29, 2008

That is so true! It’s so easy to wish, just not as easy to decide what to truly wish for. This makes me re-think some of my goals. Is my wish to be a published novelist at all costs, or to be a published author of a good novel I would be proud to be associated with?, and one that doesn’t come at the expense of my family?

Kelly@SHE-POWER - October 30, 2008

Evelyn

Timely post for me. Having been stuck in no computer land for over a week I have found lots of time to read and work through a book on life balance and another on soul transformation. I’m asking myself some of the big questions and this post reminds me of why I love Abraham Hicks so much. It’s just so simple, and I have to say that the life I now lead is very much what I wished for, even though it isn’t what I THOUGHT I was wishing for. Now I am trying to uncover whether this is actually where I need to be right now, or whether I need to tweak my asking.

Your site always makes me feel good and it is one I did miss.

Kel x

Evelyn - October 31, 2008

@Caroline, I have already got most of what I wished for from the last vision board I created…LOL!! I’m still working on the rest and am beginning to see why it is taking up more time for these.

@Pink Ink, I’m glad that you are asking questions about the type of novel you want and at what cost. My sense is that there is no “right” or “wrong”. The most important is to make a conscious decision about which way you want to go.

Evelyn - October 31, 2008

Kelly, oh…you just made my day with your lovely feedback!! I am so glad that you got back online. But as I have implied on your site, downtime is also good time. I’m glad to know that you used the time away from your PC to do some productive reading and reflection.

Indeed, it is often the case that we get what we wanted, but not in the way we have expected it to be. However, when we take a step back to ponder over, what we are getting may be in our best interest.

Still, getting what we want in exactly the way we ask is a great skill to horne. I am learning it myself!! I wish you all the best in your journey and trust that you will always be happy and well!!

Love, light and truth,
Evelyn

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Kris - April 10, 2009

Hi,
I’m overwhelmed with what I read on this site; seems like it has been written for me … However, though I can agree with a lot of the ideas, practice is not always that easy. I’m married, mother of 3 angles, and on a recent business trip I fell in love; it feels / felt like heaven. This person sent me the quote ‘be careful what you wish for’. And no, I won’t give up my children, won’t take that sacrifice, but still I can’t let go. I don’t want to give him up … it’s like an obsession … And as I also read on this website, there’s no one I can share this with … feeling all alone, indeed. Bit of advice would be appreciated

Evelyn - April 10, 2009

Hello Kris,

I definitely agree that practice is not always easy. No one can also really advise you what to do. There is every free will and free choice. You are ultimately responsible for whatever path you decide to take.

What we need to remember is that we live in a world where there is cause and effect. Our actions today can bring about a specific consequence. I don’t mean to scare you but it is true. Wise actions lead to good outcomes but unwise actions lead to outcomes that are less than desirable. Are you prepared for the consequences?

As an Intuitive Consultant, I share from the perspective that if we do not make the wise choices, it is possible that we will need to go through lifetime after lifetime of the same learning experiences.

Love & light,
Evelyn

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