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How to Cultivate a Healthy Mindset for Mental Health

Healthy Mindset for Mental Health

The mindset that you hold affects your mental health.

Your mindset is a collection of thoughts that shape your view of the world. It comprises of the stories you tell yourself and about life. The more you believe in the stories you tell yourself, the more they affect you in how you react and act. They determine the quality of your life and the level of happiness.

If you are overly anxious or you often feel down such that you feel depressed, your mental health is not at its best. It can point to having a mindset that is not strong or healthy. Your thoughts determine how you feel and they affect your actions and the reality you are in. Rather than hold on to an unhealthy mindset, think about how would life change for you if you can make a shift. 

6 Question Checklist About the Health of Your Mindset

  1. Do you tend to dwell in negative thinking or positive thinking

  2. Does your mindset support you in creating success, joy and love; or does it disempower you?

  3. Does it create anxiety, or calm and confidence?

  4. Do you often tell yourself that you are “not good enough” or do you believe in yourself wholeheartedly?

  5. Are you often happy or unhappy?

  6. Do you tend to give up, feel like a victim or get discouraged? Or do you tend to take charge, persevere and believe in yourself?

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The mindset that you hold affects your mental health.

Your mindset is a collection of thoughts that shape your view of the world. It comprises of the stories you tell yourself and about life. The more you believe in the stories you tell yourself, the more they affect you in how you react and act. They determine the quality of your life and the level of happiness.

If you are overly anxious or you often feel down such that you feel depressed, your mental health is not at its best. It can point to having a mindset that is not strong or healthy. Your thoughts determine how you feel and they affect your actions and the reality you are in. Rather than hold on to an unhealthy mindset, think about how would life change for you if you can make a shift. 

6 Question Checklist About the Health of Your Mindset

  1. Do you tend to dwell in negative thinking or positive thinking

  2. Does your mindset support you in creating success, joy and love; or does it disempower you?

  3. Does it create anxiety, or calm and confidence?

  4. Do you often tell yourself that you are “not good enough” or do you believe in yourself wholeheartedly?

  5. Are you often happy or unhappy?

  6. Do you tend to give up, feel like a victim or get discouraged? Or do you tend to take charge, persevere and believe in yourself?

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The mindset that you hold affects your mental health.

Your mindset is a collection of thoughts that shape your view of the world. It comprises of the stories you tell yourself and about life. The more you believe in the stories you tell yourself, the more they affect you in how you react and act. They determine the quality of your life and the level of happiness.

If you are overly anxious or you often feel down such that you feel depressed, your mental health is not at its best. It can point to having a mindset that is not strong or healthy. Your thoughts determine how you feel and they affect your actions and the reality you are in. Rather than hold on to an unhealthy mindset, think about how would life change for you if you can make a shift. 

6 Question Checklist About the Health of Your Mindset

  1. Do you tend to dwell in negative thinking or positive thinking

  2. Does your mindset support you in creating success, joy and love; or does it disempower you?

  3. Does it create anxiety, or calm and confidence?

  4. Do you often tell yourself that you are “not good enough” or do you believe in yourself wholeheartedly?

  5. Are you often happy or unhappy?

  6. Do you tend to give up, feel like a victim or get discouraged? Or do you tend to take charge, persevere and believe in yourself?

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Mindset Journal for Women: How to Practice Positive Thinking

Mindset Journal for Women: How to Practice Positive Thinking

My new book, Mindset Journal for Women, is finally out on Amazon…yay!! It is a journal workbook with prompts to practice positive thinking, mindfulness and to improve mental health. You can find the listing on Amazon here.

For the vast majority of people, nearly 90% of our self-talk is negative. It is reflective of having a negative or limiting mindset. In order to overcome the habitual pattern of negative thinking, we need to consistently work on building a positive mindset. Also, studies show that more women than men go into depression. It is where the Mindset Journal for Women comes in.

What’s the Juice with Mindset Journal for Women

The journal book uses the metaphor of your mind being a garden and you as the gardener.

The floral theme in the interior pages acts as a nice reminder and inspiration. Imagine each page as a fertile patch of soil, ready for your seeds of inspiration to take root. With its floral theme, every turn invites you to immerse yourself in planting seeds of positivity. 

It’s not just daily pages that I have included. I have also incorporated a mini workbook planner in Section A so that you can be introduced to concepts that would be helpful for building foundation. There are guided prompts designed to spark growth, foster gratitude, and to practice mindfulness. Section B features daily, weekly and monthly journal pages that are helpful for habit tracking, reflection and for reviews.

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How does EFT tapping help to increase vibration

How EFT tapping helps to raise vibrations

“How does EFT tapping help to increase vibration?” 

This was the exact question posed to me by a participant when I gave an introduction class on EFT to a group recently. 

Great question!

Well, I’d like to share my answers with you here, in case you are wondering the same too. 

EFT Tapping for Raising Vibrations

In case this is the first time you are hearing about EFT tapping, it is a therapeutic method where we use the fingertips to tap on specific meridian endpoints on the face and body. EFT tapping is a great tool for releasing emotional disruptions and restoring the body’s energy system. You can find out more about EFT tapping points here or simply subscribe to my newsletter to get a downloadable book on EFT tapping

Emotions, just like anything else in the Universe, are energy.

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How You Could Be in Self-Sabotage Due to Past Trauma and a Protective Nervous System

Self Sabotage Past Trauma and Protective Nervous System

Self-sabotage happens when you are in your own way of your overall happiness and success. You are either doing or not doing something that blocks achieving your goals. For example, despite wanting to have a loving relationship with your partner, you undertake actions that block connection or intimacy. 

So here’s what I discovered about how we could be sabotaging our present due to the past…

Even though the past traumatic experience is now over, our nervous system continues to use the encoded information that is from the distressing memory to disrupt us today. 

Self-Sabotage by Nervous System Past Trauma

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How the “Poor Me” Syndrome Is Synonymous with Poverty Consciousness

Stop Telling Poor Me Stories | Poverty Consciousness

For your awareness, to constantly think “poor me” is to operate in poverty consciousness.

Do you go over “poor me”, “poor me” and “poor me” in your mind?

You could also be repeating the same thing to the people that you meet too.

“Poor me” is akin to having a victim mentality. You are in self-pity. A “poor me” syndrome arises especially when you are constantly pointing blame outwards. It could be the fault of your grandmother, father, the government, the economy and so on. It is always the fault of someone or something else except yours.

[Side-note] This post is updated as the content is still relevant today.
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How Trauma is Not Just in Your Head or Mind

How Trauma is Not Just a Past Memory

What I found out about trauma is this: Trauma isn’t something that is just in your head or mind. It’s not just a past memory.

In fact, it is stored in the habitual reflexive state of your nervous system. It is in your heart, head, your stomach, arms, legs..all the sensory information that got coded. They manifest in an overreactive response to stress today: racing heart, shallow breathing, nausea, indigestion, trembling hands, blurred vision, etc.

For trauma recovery, it helps to remember: not just your head or mind, every part of your body was there in the past.

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What Are Glimmers and How You Can Find Them

What are Glimmers

Glimmers are the opposite of triggers.

Glimmers are moments that act as cues for self-regulation and for soothing our nervous system. They are tiny moments where we feel relaxed, safe, assured and connected. In contrast triggers cause us to feel threatened. When we are triggered badly, our fight-flight-freeze response can get excessively activated and our nervous system becomes deregulated. 

The concept of glimmers first came from Polyvagal theory.  The theory was introduced by Stephen Porges in 1995 where we learn about how our autonomic nervous system is constantly on the lookout for cues to determine if they are dangerous. “Glimmers” is coined by Deb Dana, a licensed clinical social worker who specialises in complex trauma and also the author of The Polyvagal Therory in Therapy, as a way to help us shift out of survival mode. 

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How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds When You Can’t Turn Back the Clock

How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds

Some of us may be resistant to the idea of having to heal childhood wounds. That is because we don’t like having to revisit the past in our memory. We fear that we would relive the pain and that we would traumatise ourselves all over again. 

Even more so, we wish that the past did not happen. For sure, if not for the past, we would have suffered less all these years and we wouldn’t have felt so lost, alone and confused. More importantly, we wouldn’t be unconsciously having an inner child that is bent on sabotaging our present. 

Perhaps, just like how movies portray, we dearly wish that there can be a time machine that can take us back. We would like to have the power to change things right from the start, instead of having to do repair or healing work. If we can change history, a time machine would certainly help. 

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Self-Love Practice eBook is Now Live

Self-Love Practice eBook is on Amazon

I’m happy to announce that my new ebook, Self-Love Practice, is finally “live” on Amazon…yayyyy!! 

As I figure, it is time for an update with new insights and client stories. Although it has been at least 9 years ago since I published my first book on self-love, I’ve been suspecting that there is still a lot of people out there with no or little clue on what it means to love themselves. Much of my suspicion arose from my sessions with clients. They could have presented a problem in say, performance anxiety, relationship conflicts or having imposter syndrome. Regardless of the presenting problem, we would be led to the same place: the need to be and feel loved.

What really got to me is how timeless the message of self-love is. Thus, the idea of a new book was born about a year ago. Titled Self-Love Practice, the book is a reaffirmation and a deepening of what it means to love ourselves. It’s now available on Amazon.

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How to Practice Loving Self-Acceptance

How to practice loving self-acceptance

Practising loving self-acceptance is not something that may come naturally. In fact, it could be a key life lesson that some of us. You may find yourself attracting various experiences that involve this important aspect of what it means to embrace yourself totally.

Many of us long to be accepted for who we are. And so, we go about seeking validation and approval from others. However, the crux is that if we cannot accept ourselves, we cannot expect others to accept us too. Without any self-acceptance, we live in constant fear of being rejected.

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” – Mark Twain

I find it great to learn from movies too.  One of the movies that I watched with my children was Wreck-it Ralph show. Initially, I had found the plot rather slow moving. And so I was not paying full attention to it. But as the movie wore on, I discovered that there were valuable lessons on self-acceptance.
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