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Build self esteem, self confidence and improve mental power in kids.
Build self esteem, self confidence and improve mental power in kids.
Are you experiencing mom guilt because your business is taking an important place in your priority list….so much so that you are not able to be 100% present for your kids sometimes?
Mom guilt is the worst stealer of joy that can inflict a mompreur who’s trying her best to do the juggling act.
You have been saying yes to the following…
attending to the important sales call
preparing a marketing launch
doing facebook lives
and cutting down on the following….
– joining the parent support group for your kid’s school
– baking cookies for children parties
– monitoring your children in their homework
– organizing play dates and other social events with other moms
– cooking family dinners
– breastfeeding beyond 6 months…
and the list goes on.
I found out that mom guilt never quite go away completely. Even though my girls are teenagers and need a lot less time from me, I still experience the mom guilt every once in a while. Then again, it has not stopped me from establishing the clear boundary between business and my two girls. I have not allowed mom guilt to stop me from pursuing what I want nor use it as an excuse to give up my business altogether.
As a mompreneur, having a mindset that is geared for success is extremely helpful if you are hoping to make serious money. Many mompreneurs fall into the trap of treating their business as a hobby. Let’s face it. A hobby mindset will only earn hobby income…which in the case of a crafty business means earning barely enough to cover the cost of accessories for the most part.
Many new mompreneurs report to one of the following emotions:
1. Guilt if they harbor ambitious dreams
2. Regret for the care-free life they had behind.
3. Shame if they fail to make busincess a success.
Is this true for you too?
Are you also having beliefs such as:
– I am not good enough to run a business;
– I am just not good with anything technical such as putting up a website;
– I can’t do sales and since having a business will involve sales, I can’t do a business;
– I suck at promoting myself;
– I am too slow to be learning anything like business and marketing etc.
“Being stuck is a position few of us like. We want something new but cannot let go of the old – old ideas, beliefs, habits, even thoughts. We are out of contact with our own genius. Sometimes we know we are stuck; sometimes we don’t. In both cases we have to DO something.” Rush Limbaugh
I have noticed that a lot of us make decisions from where we currently are – which happens to be the “stuck” position. In which case, we are making the decision from a place of fear. So we end up saying “no” or procrastinating on the one decision that can help us unstuck ourselves.
Even more so when it comes to a decision on investing in inner or healing work. We are reluctant to commit to working internally. We feel paralysed with fear. Even though we realise that it could be helpful, we are averse to the idea of bringing our repressed emotions into the open. Not surprisingly, we usually view spending in any form of inner healing/transformation as unnecessary expense.
Unfortunately, this way of thinking qualifies as poverty consciousness. If we are feeling the lack, we will continue to stay in limitation because we are not willing to take the action that can potentially bring us to the next level of growth. Paralysis imprisons and prevents us from being great!
“When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor E. Frankl
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” – Leo Tolstoy
Are you happy with the result that you are already getting?
If you are not and would like a different outcome, it is time to do things differently.
As Albert Einstein says, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Last week, I brought my daughter to a free preview workshop on effective examination strategies. To our surprise, the trainers turned out to be highly motivational. During the workshop, the trainers asked the children in the audience two poignant questions in the following order:
Are you willing to change your results?
Are you willing to change to change your results?
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” – Mark Twain
Many of us long to be accepted for who we are. And so, we go about seeking validation and approval from others. However, the crux is that if we cannot accept ourselves, we cannot expect others to accept us too. Without any self-acceptance, we live in constant fear of being rejected.
Recently, I sat down to watch the movie, Wreck-it Ralph with my children. My children were having their school holidays and we had borrowed its DVD. Initially, I had found the plot rather slow moving. And so I was not paying full attention to it. But as the movie wore on, I discovered that there were valuable lessons on self-acceptance.
“Show your body that you are aware of yourself even in the moment that you are serving another.” Joy Holland during the interview call
Over a week ago, I invited Joy Holland to have a chat with me on “vesting presence as a self-love gift”. Joy Holland blogs about the gift of presence in order that we can shine our inner brilliance. She is a heart healer, clarity facilitator and practitioner of presence. She also works a lot with women who are abused.
In particular, I wanted to find out from Joy how she – as a mother to two children – brings presence into her everyday life. As a mother myself, I can understand how difficult it is to stay focused in the moment, especially when there is something go on with the children. Many mothers I know tend to be in a state of worry (please read 25 coping tips for stressed-out mothers here).
“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.” Dale Carnegie
You could have hoped to see a sign that would signify the importance of December 21 2012 too. I certainly did myself. A few of my friends reportedly saw double rainbows and golden lights across the sky. Try as hard as I could to convince myself that the cluster of clouds formed to the image of a heart that day, I knew that it would be more a figment of my imagination.
Still, there was no denying that I spent a glorious time in the park for a good part of the day. My intention was to be in a positive vibrational state. In short, I just wanted to be happy. And I was. In the company of my children and husband, we had a lovely time on a picnic mat.
There are ways to overcome shyness even if you are in a social setting.
Are you painfully shy? Do you often feel awkward, turn white, stammer in anxiety, mumble and/or look away when someone approaches you to talk? Many people never outgrow the feelings off shyness that they experienced as children, and as an adult, being shy can pose tremendous social challenges that impede on success. Luckily, it is possible to overcome shyness at any time.
As a child, I was extremely shy. My voice was hardly audible. I wished that I could disappear into the ground when people I didn’t know well, approached me with a question. Until I entered college, I frequently hoped that no one would notice me. In college, I became somewhat split in my desires; torn between wanting to be noticed by the boys and not wanting to be noticed by the teachers during class.
The animated movie “How to Train Your Dragon” is not simply a tale about teaching your magical pet some tricks. It is a story with many life lessons in it.
(Photo credit: Creative commons dragon picture from Willi; other image elements including photo of my daughter from my personal album; effects made with photoshop software).
“We think, sometimes, there’s not a dragon left. Not one brave knight, not a single princess gliding through secret forests … What a pleasure to be wrong. Princesses, knights, enchantments and dragons, mystery and adventure … not only are they here-and-now, they’re all that ever lived on earth! Masters of reality still meet us in dreams to tell us that we’ve never lost the shield we need against dragons, that blue-fire voltage arcs through us now to change our world as we wish. Intuition whispers true: We’re not dust, we’re magic!”
— Richard Bach, Best Selling Author to the book Jonathan Livingston Seagull
I compiled a list of affirmations for children recently from a wish to help mine with self-mastery and positive programming . As adults, many of our limiting thought patterns can be attributed to childhood conditioning or having unconsciously adopted negative societal beliefs. While we look for ways to help realign ourselves, how about starting with a better way forward in our children?
Affirmations For Children in Homemade Flip Cards
Most certainly, we can help our kids with instilling good values, confidence, focus and belief. Positive affirmations for children can do a lot to assist them in developing healthy self esteem. We can also target some for the purposes of having an easier time with their school work.