How the “Poor Me” Syndrome Is Synonymous with Poverty Consciousness

For your awareness, to constantly think “poor me” is to operate in poverty consciousness.

Do you go over “poor me”, “poor me” and “poor me” in your mind?

You could also be repeating the same thing to the people that you meet too.

“Poor me” is akin to having a victim mentality. You are in self-pity. A “poor me” syndrome arises especially when you are constantly pointing blame outwards. It could be the fault of your grandmother, father, the government, the economy and so on. It is always the fault of someone or something else except yours.

[Side-note] This post is updated as the content is still relevant today.
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How to Practice Loving Self-Acceptance

Practising loving self-acceptance is not something that may come naturally. In fact, it could be a key life lesson that some of us. You may find yourself attracting various experiences that involve this important aspect of what it means to embrace yourself totally.

Many of us long to be accepted for who we are. And so, we go about seeking validation and approval from others. However, the crux is that if we cannot accept ourselves, we cannot expect others to accept us too. Without any self-acceptance, we live in constant fear of being rejected.

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” – Mark Twain

I find it great to learn from movies too.  One of the movies that I watched with my children was Wreck-it Ralph show. Initially, I had found the plot rather slow moving. And so I was not paying full attention to it. But as the movie wore on, I discovered that there were valuable lessons on self-acceptance.
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Introvert Guide: How to Build Authentic Self-Confidence

A big questions is: How can we build self-confidence, as an introvert, in a world that seems to favour the extroverts? 

Some clients of mine who are introverts seem to believe that their quiet personality is some kind of death sentence and that they are already at a disadvantage.

Well, it is true that those who are extroverted or have an outgoing personality tend to attract friends easily. They are fun, bright and great to hang out with. Generally, they appear to be confident about themselves. Society is also  inclined to believe that those who are extroverted make natural leaders. But does this mean that those who are introverted have no or less chance to be successful? 

Well, I’d like to share from my perspective as someone with an introverted personality but still desiring to connect with others socially.  Also, I’d like to correct some myths on introverts. I also like to believe that the world has enough space for introverts to thrive as much as the extroverts or anyone in between. 

Most introverts are quiet. They can feel as if they “don’t belong”. Quietness can seem to be something out of place in a world that is noisy. In fact, introversion is often perceived as something undesirable or a sign of weakness. From not speaking up, our silence is interpreted as being shy, having a lack of confidence and as having nothing valuable to contribute. 

As kids, we may be taught that there is something fundamentally wrong with having an introverted or quiet personality. We were not the popular ones in school for sure. I recall feeling rather hurt when I was labelled as a “quiet kid”, which caused me to retreat even more into silence.

Recently, while attending a dinner-cum-networking gathering, someone suddenly pointed out that I have been really quiet.  For a moment, I could feel as if all eyes were on me. Till then, I was occupied with listening to what the more talkative ones had to share. Put in the spot, I felt as if I had to defend myself for being quiet. 

Keanu Reeves has much to say about being a quiet person…

I hate when people ask me: “Why are you so quiet?” Because I am. That’s how I function. I don’t ask others, “Why do you talk so much?” It’s rude.

 

 

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3 Lessons of 2020

2020 has been a difficult year for most. Against the backdrop of confusion, chaos and challenges, I reviewed the happenings that took place, in order to redesign plans for a new year ahead.

As 2020 comes to an end, I’d like to invite you to do the following too…
What’s your review for 2020 like?
What were your 3 most important lessons learnt?
How can you pivot your life and business for a stronger 2021 ahead?



May 2021 be a better year for you. 

To your success, health and happiness! 
Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim

What the 5 Signs of Having Mindset Blocks are

What happens if you don’t even know you have mindset blocks?

What are the signs?

To begin with, why is even important to identify whether you have mindset blocks or not?

Well, for a start,  mindset blocks can keep you stuck or struggling more than you need to. It obstructs your success. A mindset block arises when you have the story of “I want to achieve this goal or dream but (the reason)”. You may even have more than one “but” on why you can’t achieve what you want.

Invariably, the reason behind the “but” stems from a limiting belief. Your “but this” or “but that” are actually excuses. Excuses are a form of self-sabotage. 

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Bust this Myth: You Don’t Need a Mindset Coach when You Can Get Tips for FREE Online

Why work with a mindset coach or someone who helps you release emotional stress when you can get a ton of mindset tips for free online?

You could, for instance, watch free online tapping videos on how to work on emotional release.

Or get inspired by motivational videos on Goalcast (in the hope that these will kick you into action).

Or read a bunch of articles on positive affirmations and beliefs on the web, in the hope that these will sink into your subconscious.

Why then would you want to work with a mindset coach individually over paid sessions when you can learn, read or apply all these for free online?

You may be thinking: it sounds silly to spend money on mindset so that you can make more money, when you are already struggling with money issues.

Well, listen in to this video on why it is a myth that you don’t need to work with a coach, especially if you are running a business.

Find out the benefits of working with a coach over 1:1 sessions.

Would like to improve your inner game and double your results in half the time? Apply for a 30-minute complimentary discovery call (worth $200) with me, where you get a plan on how to get from stuck to breakthrough.

Let’s connect,
Evelyn Lim
Women Empowerment Coach
for Coaches, Energy Healers and Solopreneurs

What the Fear of Rejection Taught Me About Self-Acceptance

When I started my journey as an energy healer and an abundance coach, it became pretty obvious to me that I have a fear of rejection. 

More than once, I was shamed, ridiculed and told that I was doing something wrong. Whether it was about energy healing, helping others with emotional release or sharing about the Law of Attraction. It did not matter to the critics. In the beginning, I took such comments personally.

It’s even ridiculous, come to think of it. These friends had formed their judgments even though they hardly knew about my work, the research I had done or about the empirical evidence I had gathered. There was little attempt to understand these. No questions were asked.

But would it have made a difference?

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What are Money Blocks and How to Release Them Effectively

What are money blocks that keep you from attracting the abundance that you deserve?

When you are not being hired for your services, you may be tempted to believe that the problem stems from a branding issue. When you are not able to generate more sales for your product, you could be thinking that the problem lies with the lack of a marketing plan. In both situations, you are not making the money you deserve.

Hence, your first move may be to hire a branding or marketing specialist.

However, you could also find that these solutions could not fix your problems adequately, especially where you continue to be in struggle. It may even appear that the strategies work for everyone else except for you. No matter what you’ve attempted, the methods applied did not work sufficiently. And you wonder, why has the Universe abandoned you?

I would like to invite you to take a step back to reflect.

Could it be that you’ve been in the same negative patterns of emotional struggle over money matters for a long time now?

On reflection, you may discover that while things have improved over the years, you are still far from manifesting your dream or money breakthrough. You are currently feeling depleted in energy, miserable, frustrated, disappointed and ashamed. It will be great if you can change your situation and improve your results.

Well, for change to happen, may I propose that you start from the beginning. Find out what are the money blocks that you’ve created in the past. In other words, address these blocks at root cause.

“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.” —Khalil Gibran

Money Leak: Internal or External

Just imagine the scenario of having a cut. You are likely to use a band aid or apply a bandage for your cut. If it is a small cut, that will do the trick! Your bleeding stops.

However, a bandage is not going to help you in a situation that stems from major internal bleeding. In fact, a bandage could hide the problem that you are having. From the inside, you are still losing blood. And you have no idea where the bleeding is coming from – which organ, tissue or body part?

Well, money blocks create a leakage in your energy system. They arise internally. To address the leakage requires you to look within.

What are Money Blocks

Money blocks comprise of negative emotions and limiting beliefs and are often created as a result of negative experiences in the past.

Examples of money beliefs include
– Money is the root of all evils,
– I can’t be spiritual and rich at the same time,
– I need to slave hard for the money
– I am just not good enough to manage money etc.

Money blocks cause you to be in self-sabotage. They create a disruption in your energy system and lower your vibrational state of being. Consequently, you find yourself unable to manifest the financial abundance that you deserve effortlessly and easily. Your financial stress increases and your overall well-being reduces.

Release Money Blocks from the Past

Money blocks often arise from a past event.  However, do note that the past only exists in the mind. It exists because you keep your old story alive in your mind. That’s why you call it a memory. Memory is a mental construct. Since the memory of the past exists only as a construction, NLP co-founder Richard Bandler postulates, “It is never too late to have a happy childhood.”

Because the past is something that is created in the mind, you have the power to change it. Even though the past may be what you would say “actually happened”, it does not serve you any more to carry it as a burden. When you carry the memory as a burden, you disrupt your own peace and harmony.

You are kept living in the past when you refuse to let it go.

“You know why it’s hard to be happy—it’s because we refuse to LET GO of the things that make us sad.”  Bruce Lipton

The same old disruptive tape plays in your mind over and over again. Over time, you leak power. It puts you out-of-alignment with the vibrational frequency of the financial abundance that you are hoping to attract.

Do note that releasing money blocks at a general level may not be enough to create the transformation that you are looking for. If you have encountered negative situations in childhood or a past traumatic even that led to the forming of money beliefs, they need to be dealt with specifically.  In other words, specific events or situations need to be addressed at root cause.

Release Money Blocks Effectively with Tapping

Tapping away money blocks at root cause potentially sets you free.

In my 10 years of experience, I have found that applying Meridian Tapping to produce excellent results for releasing money blocks. Meridian Tapping or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) simply involves using fingertips to tap on specific meridian points on our faces and body, while articulating a set of healing statements. Clients are guided to retrack their past memories and to tap away the emotional disruptions and limiting beliefs that were formed arising from the specific events.

Once a release happens, your energy system is reset with open channels. You experience a vibrational shift upwards as you are no longer blocked. It becomes a lot easier to leverage on the Law of Attraction for bringing your dreams into manifestation.

Tap Away Money Blocks and Transform Your Life

It wouldn’t do for me to recommend the band aid as the solution that will definitely fix the problem of money stress. The solution will not be adequate if I suspect that there is internal bleeding going on. In such situations, I am more interested to investigate what the bleeding is about, where it arose and how to heal from the inside-out.

My focus is to help you address the root cause of your issues and to guide you on transmuting pain into power, while integrating important lessons. Thus, you are no longer held back by the past.

Releasing money blocks is not a get-rich-quick method. Rather, addressing the root cause of your issues is what makes the distinction between getting mediocre results (one that merely helps you get through a transition – the band aid solution) – and getting superior results (one that not only takes you through a transition but aids you in your spiritual transformation).

What I recommend is an inside-out mind, body and soul system that offers powerful spiritual integration in the physical and that takes you to wholeness.

“Transformation occurs when we release energy blocks at all levels: emotional, mental, spiritual and physical.” Evelyn Lim

Over to you. What are the money blocks that you could be having? Which will you choose – address external factors only or address the heart of your issues at root cause?

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn

P.S. Apply for a 30-min complimentary call if you have further questions and/or need more assistance on releasing money blocks.

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Give Yourself the Permission to Fly

Do you give yourself the permission to fly?

Well, for the first time, I did.

A week ago.

I felt all powerful *brilliant smile*!!

On top of the world.

It blew my mind to think that I could have the chance to take on the control wheel of a plane.

Even though it was a tiny two-seater.

And only for a few minutes.

I had thought the pilot-in-charge was going to say “no” when I asked for the permission to fly.

It was his first flight after getting his private license, after all.

I was half expecting a rejection.

Instead, he nodded.

Seriously???

He’s not joking.

It’s a yes!!!

Hurray!

Well, I guess he couldn’t say “no” to his wife who was looking so eager.

Yup, the pilot-in-charge is my husband, former F16 pilot and very importantly, the wind beneath my wings.

Time to Fly

When it was time for me to take over the wheel, I was nervous.

It’s a propeller after all. Affected by winds. I was concerned about flying off-course as some manoeuvring was needed.

Still, it wasn’t all that difficult since I only needed to head straight with the destination in the horizon. Don’t laugh ha!

From Senai International Airport, we were heading for Kukup Island where we circled to take in the majestic views of the sea from the sky.

It was a successful first flight – for both my husband and I!

No More Excuses

I’m thankful for the opportunity.

It was so fun that we are already planning for our next flight!

Which reminds me.

It took us forever to get to this point.

We had our excuses.

It’s not the right time, we used to say.

Years went by.

Life got better but we still had our excuses.

We started noticing how uninspired we were becoming for the lack of exciting adventures.

Finally we decided to just go for the things in life that we know will lift us.

The decision started a whole chain of events.

As you’ve read, it led us to taking our first flight together!

My Takeaways

No More Excuses!

Metaphorically speaking,

We already have wings….all we need is to give ourselves the permission to fly!

Agree? My question is: What’s Holding You Back?

On Silver Wings Poem

Finally, a poem that may just inspire you to FLY!

Love and Abundance Always,
Evelyn Lim
Abundance Life Coach for Women in Business

5 Positive Archetypes of the Divine Feminine for Sacred Self-Discovery

What do archetypes have to do with awakening your Divine Feminine and why is this important?
Also, is any talk on Divine Feminine hocus pocus and how does this apply to the modern day woman?
Well, allow me to explain why you would want to dive deeper into the topic of archetypes of the Divine Feminine for sacred self-discovery.

For a start, awakening your Divine Feminine is important because you wouldn’t want to have gender-related beliefs holding you back from drawing on your sacred womanly gifts and being the best that you can be. Beliefs that do not serve you include the following: women should be of the inferior sex, girls can only be seen and not heard, or that women are only meant to just sew or cook. You’d be surprised how many of us continue to hold such beliefs.

It’s been a struggle for many women to align with their highest potential. The Divine Feminine has been suppressed for years until recently. Women have no or little rights to speak, express or show up throughout history. Even in modern times, many women continue to live in a paradigm that is outdated and that no longer supports our growth.

Awakening your Divine Feminine is nothing mystical. Nor is it a New Age fad. After all, it’s your birthright to live as you are. In your true nature. You are able to draw on your feminine traits, strengths and gifts. It’s an awesome feeling, being in the space where you own yourself fully.

For a long time, I had found it difficult to speak, express or show up confidently. It was only when I dug deep that I realised how I had bought into beliefs that disempower women. These beliefs were embedded into my psyche and affected the choices and decisions I made. The self-realisation hit hard and it was painful before I could free myself from the layers of falsehood.

Having helped other women through my coaching and healing services, I became aware of the vast and negative consequences of not reclaiming our Divine Feminine. They include the following:
– Low confidence and poor self-esteem
– The subject of emotional and physical abuse
– Depression
– Inability to shine at work
– Slower progress in job promotion
– Unable to go for what we desire and so on.

Conversely, when you live in fullness of your Divine Feminine, you are able to lead confidently from power.  Living in fullness means having to reclaim parts that you have abandoned or ignored. It starts with self-discovery. Self-discovery offers you the opportunity to set the conscious intent of breaking free from the limitations you have imposed on yourself just because you are female.

I recommend incorporating an exploration into archetypal patterns so that you can reclaim your Divine Feminine. Go through each pattern in turn and align with the positive attributes. You can begin your self-discovery journey by journaling on archetypes with this guide here!

What is the Meaning of Archetype?

According to Jungian psychology, an archetype is a collectively-inherited unconscious idea, pattern of thought, image, etc., that is universally present, in individual psyches.

The 5 Archetypes of the Divine Feminine

(1) Creator or Earth Mother

The Creator Mother within the soul of a Divine Feminine is like Earth. She has maternal instincts which makes her very caring. As a Mother, she nourishes with milk and she sustains life. Through her womb, a mother allows the merging of the masculine and feminine energy for creation to happen. She is akin to a Midwife, facilitating birth.

(2) Sensual Lover

Sensuality is the ability to fully experience the senses, without apology or restraint. The sense of smell, taste, touch, and vision combine to awaken her body. She is also a Sensual Lover who unites her energy with her masculine partner as ONE.

(3) Sacred Healer

The Divine Feminine is a Sacred Healer, whose loving and caring nature helps to heal relationships. She heals through her heart and soul. Her innate nature is full of grace. She is connected to water for emotional management.

(4) Wise Sage

The Divine Feminine is a Wise Sage, using her intuition to guide her for decision making and for navigating life. She senses energy, whether consciously or unconsciously, and is able to tell if something feels off or not right.

(5) Leader or the Warrioress

In a state of balance, the Divine Feminine is calm and therefore, not a chronic worrier but a Warrioress. As a Warriorress, she is able to handle her multiple responsibilities, deal with challenges and gets things done. She holds things together for her family and loved ones of whom she fiercely protects.

The Divine Feminine leads with creative power. It does not necessarily mean that she needs to be artistic. Her nature allows her to be receptive and to be open to ideas. Thus, she is able to work on the ideas for problem solving or for creating her best work. 

Her gifts help her to carve out unique work for herself. Thus, she does not need to be in a co-dependent relationship. Most certainly, the modern woman does not have to rely on her partner to create a source of living. She has what it takes to succeed. Success is hers when she deems herself worthy.

Drawing on Your Positive Archetypal Traits

“We will discover the nature of our particular genius when we stop trying to conform to our own or to other people’s models, learn to be ourselves, and allow our natural channel to open.” Shakti Gawain

Connecting with your Divine Feminine requires you to be courageous to own who you are. There is no need for you to conform to the standards held by any masculine-led community. On the contrary, you are ready to overcome any fear of rejection.

“I was once afraid of people saying “Who does she think she is? Now I have the courage to stand and say, “This is who I am.” Oprah Winfrey

The more you know yourself, the more you are able to peel off the layers of falsehood. You realise that you have been living in an illusion and you no longer wish to do so. As you become more authentic to your true nature, you’d find it easier to shine your core brilliance. In my book Self-Discovery Journal for Women, I provided writing prompts so that you can reclaim yourself.

Align with the Positive Archetypes of the Divine Feminine NOW

There is a cost to waiting if you are not seeing the urgency in awakening your Divine Feminine. The earlier you reclaim and celebrate yourself, the easier it would be to step into the best that you can be. You will be free of any beliefs that erodes your confidence as a woman.

“The Divine Feminine understands that even as her body ages, she does not need to resort to invasive procedures to keep her youth or be worried that she has now lines to show. Nor does she need to fear losing her man because she is older. She has enough self-confidence to know that she is still beautiful from the inside-out.” Self-Discovery Journal for Women: 250 Questions and Writing Prompts to Awaken Your Divine Feminine

I’ve personally seen how women were able to shine quickly after achieving a breakthrough from reclaiming lost parts of themselves. My clients had reported improved well-being and better success rates as soon as we work together. When they finally own who they are, their life magically changes!

It can happen for you too. Your feminine gifts are presented to you at the soul. Claim who you are NOW!

May you lead your best life, in full awareness of your divinity and true nature!

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn Lim
Life Coach for Women Entrepreneurs

Resources:
1. Self-Discovery Journal for Women: 250 Quhestions and Writing Prompts to Awaken Your Divine Feminine
2. Get an akashic soul reading for sacred self-discovery here!
3. Apply for a clarity call to get from stuck to breakthrough.

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