How to Be Bold In Life

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To fulfill our visions, we need to be bold. We need to be able to let go of our fears. Boldness is the magic brew that spurs us on to venture beyond known territories, undertake new adventures, and make bigger dreams. A healthy dose of boldness is required if we want our lives to change. It is the kickstart to living a life of being free from fear.

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(A Scrapbook Page that I made, reminding me about being bold.)

I cannot claim to be completely fearless. In fact, on several occasions, I had quivered in nervousness, shook on my knees and spent  sleepless nights due to anxiety. But over and over again, I had plucked up courage; ready to take on new adventures.

So what has helped me to be bold during such times? What tips can I share with you?


7 Ways to Be Bold

1. Choose To Embody Aliveness.

The thing with me is that I love challenges. So even while I feel the fear, I go ahead anyway. The dread of not being alive outweighs the frustration of being stuck in a numbing comfort zone. Hence, I put myself on all kinds of adventures and hmmm…sometimes recklessly too.

I remember the time when I sailed single handled in the open sea, despite having insufficient practice in reading wind directions. I sailed from the shore, without knowing how to turn my boat back. Eventually, it capsized.

It would have been nice to end the adventure with a flourish such as being rescued with a dashing hero. Except that I was saved by a grumpy friend who was unhappy that I took a risk. Yes, I admit that it was reckless on my part. Then again, I was answering to the call of boldness.

I am not suggesting that you get careless and take unsound risks. On the contrary, I’m inviting you to make a choice. Decide on how you would like to live.

The questions you need to ask yourself are: What happens if you don’t start a new adventure, undertake an exciting project or choose to live differently? How would you feel 10, 20 or 30 years down the road? But what happens if you do?

Make the choice to be bold, if you don’t want to live a life of regrets.

2. Let Go of Wanting Perfection.

Many of us want to look perfect. We have got important self images to protect. We would like to have the perfect plan before we proceed on an adventure. We like to do long calculations, detailed strategising, weigh our pros and cons endlessly, and make massive backup/recovery plans. We want to know that our plans won’t fail us. And then we won’t also look like failures.

Well, avoid wanting things to be 100% perfect. It’s your ego that is wanting you to look successful, complete and secure. Instead, put yourself out there. Be bold. Brace yourself for more exciting and wonderful things to happen!

3. Work on Your Beliefs.

You are probably fearful because you believe that you can’t. However, if you believe that you can’t, then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

But what if you believe the opposite? What if you program yourself to take on new beliefs? Since beliefs are made from thoughts, it is possible to change your thoughts to make new beliefs.

4. Do Something Differently for a Change.

Do something that you don’t usually do. Go beyond your comfort zone. For instance, wear something flaming red instead of your usual somber black. Or ask someone out for a change, instead of waiting endlessly for the phone to ring.

5. Try A Sporting Activity That Requires Guts.

Some sports or activities require you to first have courage. You will invariably feel inspired when you are able to do them.

Let me share my story.  When I was growing up,  I was afraid of being in water. Reason being that I am not a good swimmer. However, in my early adult years, I decided that I did not wish to live with the fear any longer.

And so, I took up a bunch of sea sports in succession: sailing, water-skiing, wakeboarding, wind surfing and diving. I realised that once I got the adrenalin going, things got easier and easier.

Having such experiences can offer positive anchoring states. When you do visualisations for future situations, recall these past experiences to help you shift into confidence and courage.

6. Read Stories of Heroes or Heroines.

Get inspired by the stories of heroes or heroines. All of them have displayed some form of courage. Have pictures of these people on our vision boards. They are our role models. They are our defining images. They are our beacons of hope.

7. Be Inspired by a Higher Vision.

When you feel drawn to a higher calling, you would naturally find yourself wanting to be bold. Indeed, boldness was chosen as a desired energy to align with by a few of the participants during my recent Vision Board Mastery Workshop.

When you weave passion into the higher vision of bringing meaning into the lives of others, you revive a power that you have not previously accessed. As in the hero archetype, you find yourself being able to command the wind, quell a storm, deliver an air-bending move and destroy a terrifying enemy. Gold is the meaning through which you shine with purpose.
Abundance Alchemy: Journey of Gold


Boldness for the Heroine

As a woman, I’d like to honour the boldness of the feminine divine.  Allow me to share about the Archetype of the Heroine who has the energetic qualities of courage, feminine power and self awareness…

The heroine has an inner journey to take, in addition to the outer one. The inner journey of the heroine follows her courageous path of going perilously towards her center, of experiencing death before the rebirth, and that takes her from limitation to freedom.

The questions that she asks are universal, including: “What happens when I die?” “How can I be happy” and the more elusive “Who am I?” At the very core, the journey is about the paradoxical discovery that she is the mystery that she seeks to know. The metaphoric journey ultimately culminates in the resurrection of the self and reawakening of her spirit.
— Excerpt from Abundance Alchemy: Journey of Gold

 

Share Your Story of Boldness

Do share your story or tips on being bold. Help to inspire others with what happened.

Living Boldly, Authentically and Abundantly,

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Angela Artemis/Powered by Intuition - March 8, 2011 Reply

Happy International Womens Day to you too Evelyn!
To make our lives sensational we need to be bold! Take a few risks and really believe in ourselves. Thank you for inspiring me today.

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Evelyn Reply:

More power to you, Angela 🙂

Love always,
Evelyn

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The Vizier - March 9, 2011 Reply

Hi Evelyn,

Courage is not he absence of fear, but the ability to act in spite of it.

Being bold does make a great difference in our lives. Napoleon Bonaparte firmly believed in the need to be bold and though he was timid initially, he trained himself to be bold. The result was that he conquered much of Europe. We don’t have to go to his extremes, but a little boldness does help. I love your 7 suggestions for boldness. If I may be so bold, here are some of my thoughts on them.

3. Work on Your Beliefs:

This is very important to me. We can only achieve what we believe we can. One of the beliefs that I have instilled in myself is that if I focus on finding the solution, I will have no more problems. This has been of immense value when it comes to dealing with fear. In the past fear would overcome me. Today, I work out what I need to do and do it.

6. Read Stories of Heroes and Heroines:

This is my favourite. I draw inspiration from a variety of sources. I love historical figures and fictional characters from novels and comics. In fact, I happen to be watching Legend of the Condor Heroes now and it has me glued to my seat. I love Chinese martial arts drama serials! It helps to have many heroes because we can develop familiarity blindness at times and certain heroes may fail to inspire us in certain situations. Having backups is always welcome.

7. Be Inspried by a Higher Vision:

Having a higher vision will help us to press forth despite the adversity we face. Under normal circumstances, we may not make the effort out of fear. But when there is much at stake, fear takes a backseat to all we could lose or our vision is so strong it compels us to act in spite of our fear. Many successful people in the world today succeeded because of their higher vision.

Thank you for sharing this lovely article! 🙂

Irving the Vizier

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Irving,

Is Legend of the Condor Heroes an old series? I love period dramas too but no longer could find the time to watch them. Yes, I can imagine that all these heroes would need to muster some form of courage in order to fight duels and be the “tian xia wu di”. It’s great that you’re finding some inspiration there!

I like tip #7 myself because it keeps me focused on my ultimate objective. As you’ve correctly pointed out, “fear takes a backseat” as there are more important considerations here.

To your dreams,
Evelyn

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jonathanfigaro - March 9, 2011 Reply

It’s great to see how you defeated your own fears. Not many ppl do this. Not many people have the inner ability to see life as an adventure rather than a jungle of lion and your the sheep. You must of felt so good after realizing that playing in the water is super fun. I’m happy for you .

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Jonathan,

I still cannot swim well but I’m happy to have conquered my fears. Having said that, I used sheer will to do that. Back when I was doing all my seasports, I didn’t know any of the tools that I know now. I don’t think that many can claim to doing all the activities I’ve done, even whilst having an inability to swim well. So yes, it’s a pat on my back for myself…hee…

To your dreams,
Evelyn

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Stephen - March 9, 2011 Reply

Hi Evelyn, it is the mind-created fear of the challenge that creates the problem. Most people have all of the resources they need to set out on an adventure (as your insufficient sailing practice proved) but are missing one vital piece – the ‘tipping point’ or catalyst for change, when you step out or ‘boldly go…’ Great post, Stephen

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Stephen,

You are right about the tipping point. Well, I am in another round of change. Not too long ago, I felt that I have “had it” with the stories that I have been telling myself. It’s time to break new barriers!

My past experiences have shown that at these tipping points, I tend to charge ahead rather than work out a plan gradually. The way I have done it is: shoot first then aim. So I kindof need to hold myself back a little and do some planning before charging ahead.

More power to you, Stephen!
Evelyn

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Lisa - March 9, 2011 Reply

Thank you for this fabulous post! I was very bold yesterday in purchasing tickets to an event without knowing how I am going to get the money for the airfare. Your article is helping me to surpass the fear and focus on my goal. Life truly is an adventure if you let it, thanks for the tips that will help me stay in the place of allowing!

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Lisa,

I wish you all the best in manifesting the money for the airfare. It’s an excellent way to work on your beliefs and opening yourself to what the universe can provide. This event must be something very special to you!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

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Kalpana Misra - March 9, 2011 Reply

I enjoyed reading the story about your going out on the boat. Glad it had a happy ending 🙂

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Evelyn Reply:

Honestly, I was scared stiff when my boat capsized. I took off without too much thinking. However, I had the trust that nothing untoward will happen to me. Kindof silly because a lot of things could go wrong, like an oncoming storm for instance. What perhaps was madness was because no sailing experts or instructors were around at that time.

Glad to know you’ve enjoyed the story, Kalpana!
Evelyn

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Christopher Lovejoy - March 9, 2011 Reply

Hi Evelyn,

You’ve written a most thought-provoking post.

Be alive. Be good enough. Believe in yourself. Be different. Be bold. Be courageous. Be adventurous. Be inspired. All of which can add up to a life lived and a life lived well.

The choice is simple: stay happily snuggled inside your comfort zone or step up and out into a place where fear, dread, and terror meets excitement, exuberance, and exhilaration.

I like both and I do both.

Love and light,
Christopher

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Evelyn Reply:

Hi Christopher,

Oh yes, I’ve landed myself in enough situations that make me blush, squirm or tear my hair out in anxiety. Still, I won’t change them for anything…ha!

More recently, I have to learn to hold myself back and make at least some kind of plan before proceeding. I had been inculcated with the mentality of “shoot and then aim” due to my corporate training that I now need to adjust it somewhat.

Thank you. I didn’t realize that I wasn’t saying all that in one single post. But you’re right. It’s about living boldly to live a full life. We all have fears but we need to get past them, in order to move to the next step.

Abundance always,
Evelyn

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NANCY - March 9, 2011 Reply

I am going to start doing my scrapbook, because i used to have one, but i didn´t make one anymore, so i´m going to start again, with new goals=)

Thanks for all evelyn, tomorrow is my birthday, i hope you wish me a lot o abundance =) Have a nice day!!!!!

love, nancy*

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Nancy,

Have a Happy Birthday! May you be blessed with an abundance of love, peace and joy!

Starting a scrapbook is a wonderful gift that you can give to yourself. I like to make mine with plenty of inspirational sayings, quotes and reminders.

I wish you all the best in manifesting your new goals 🙂

With love always,
Evelyn

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Michele - March 9, 2011 Reply

Fantastic post!!! I’m working to bust through my fear of heights and try rock climbing (indoor of course), lol!!

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Michele,

I have tried rock climbing once. Indoor of course. I was stuck on the wall for a very long time…filled with fear and unable to move…LOL! Have fun!! And all the best!

With love,
Evelyn

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Dandy - March 9, 2011 Reply

Hi Evelyn,
It is great you were able to work past your fears and step into a life that is more suitable to your braveness. I’ve recently taken a plunge into new waters. I don’t know what will happen, but I believe in myself and I believe I’m worthy of success. Thanks Evelyn!

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Evelyn Reply:

Yes you are, Dandy. You are deserving of success! I’m beginning to wonder how many of us actually have poor beliefs in this area. Let’s help support and cheer each other on!

Wishing you the very best,
Evelyn

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Mable - March 9, 2011 Reply

Fantastic post. Incredibly inspiring and motivating. Thanks for spreading hope and faith every single day. 🙂

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Mable,

Thank you for your feedback 🙂 I’m glad to know that whatever I’m doing is helping!

With appreciation and love,
Evelyn

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rob white - March 9, 2011 Reply

Great advice, Evelyn and wonderful to see how you put it to use in your life. Personally I have tried spelunking and skydiving to jolt me beyond my comfort zone. Being bold requires having the courage to mentally step beyond what our thought-habits offer. We must trust that there is more more to us than we have been taught is true.

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Evelyn Reply:

Hi Rob,

I’m not sure that I’d enjoy exploring caves but I’d be game to try skydiving! I like what you said, “we must trust that there is more more to us than we have been taught is true.” Thumbs up!

To more power, boldness and courage,
Evelyn

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Suzie Cheel - March 10, 2011 Reply

Love it, being bold make us feel both empowered and inspired. I relate to No 2- let go of perfection- letting Miss perfectionist go in one’s life creates change and no 7 is where I am working on being bold today.
with love
Suzie

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Evelyn Reply:

Hi Suzie,

I wish you every success in fulfilling your higher vision!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

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Joyce at I Take Off The Mask - March 10, 2011 Reply

BOLDNESS. At times, that’s what people call a ‘crazy idea’, until someone does it and succeeds in it, and it becomes a ‘great idea’! Passion is boldness. And so is real love 😉

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Evelyn Reply:

Your comment just made me smile! How true! Thanks for your amazing sharing, Joyce!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

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Stacy - March 10, 2011 Reply

What an inspiring post! My greatest obstacle in facing my fears is that I tend to want perfection. I have grown a lot in this area but still have room to grow more. I find that for me my perfectionist streak brings me levels of anxiety, which brings me to a whole new fear to face, the anxiety itself. The great thing about facing that fear is that it can be very exhilarating when I do. Then I often find myself wanting to face it again.

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Evelyn Reply:

There is a positive side to perfectionism. We want to offer our very best. However, it is important to not let it get out-of-hand.

I know what you mean about facing fear. I’m wondering if I’m also kindof “addicted” to the thrill of living in excitement. Hmm….

Loving and living life,
Evelyn

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Bryan Thompson - March 11, 2011 Reply

Hi Evelyn, I love these tips for creating boldness. It’s so true – it’s choosing to feel alive. I have found also that finding things that bring to mind experiences of boldness in the past can help you recover this state of mind. It’s a neat trick to close your eyes and picture yourself at the height of a peak performance in some event, and FEELING those emotions. FEELING the energy. FEELING alive. And then recreate that feeling in your current experience. It can be a powerful exercise!

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Bryan,

Thank you for sharing about the exercise. I’m glad that you emphasized on the word “FEELING”.

It’s an anchoring tip that I teach my kids too. It helps them overcome their fears in public speaking, trying on something new and so on. And they love it!

To Awesomeness,
Evelyn

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Chris Edgar - March 12, 2011 Reply

Hi Evelyn, I liked what you said about embodying aliveness — one thing I’ve noticed recently is that, although I don’t want to be afraid or angry all the time, the intensity that comes from experiencing those emotions does feel very alive. I guess that’s why I’ve been putting myself in situations where I’m going to be challenged or confronted.

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Chris,

Good for you in challenging yourself! Growth happens when we put ourselves in discomfort and we find ways to harmonize with change.

All the best,
Evelyn

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Marty - March 12, 2011 Reply

Letting go of perfection is the most releasing of these tips, I think. I now see all my life and what I do as a “Work in Progress”. I’ll get some work done that may produce a degree of satisfaction, but working to perfection can cause giving up and never producing something for evaluation and gain. Good blog. Thank you.

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Marty,

I have noticed that of myself too: working to perfection can stop me from producing. Interestingly, an awareness test I took this morning showed that I scored high in getting things started. So what I need to be aware of is to leverage on my strength in moving thoughts into action but not hold myself back too long from producing something tangible because of wanting perfection.

More power to you,
Evelyn

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Albert | UrbanMonk.Net - March 12, 2011 Reply

Hey Evelyn, the point on perfection was very striking. I think there’s a whole post that can be written on it 🙂 And I would love to hear more on your experiences with it; I’ve seen that a desire to be perfect (probably stemming from insecurities) is keeping me from the very things I want in my own life. Thanks for another good read.

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Albert,

Thanks for your suggestion. I realized it myself while I was writing this article; that a whole article could possibly be written on perfectionism. Your reminder has just caused me to note it down as a to-do item!

With love,
Evelyn

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J.D. Meier - March 13, 2011 Reply

> Embody Aliveness
I like that. It’s one thing to go through the motions, it’s a whole other level to breathe life into things.

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Evelyn Reply:

I enjoyed your definition of “aliveness”. Thumbs up!

Evelyn

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Romina - March 13, 2011 Reply

Hi Evelyn I was inspired by your post. Really, I have to be reminded always to take bold steps to achieve my goals in life. However, I tend to go for perfection in what I am doing and may be this is the reason why I feel frustrated sometimes. Thanks for reminding me that all I have to do is taking a bold step, going beyond my comfort zone and do things that I do not normally do. In fact, I always say this during my EFT sessions with my self. Like I always say, great post! Keep it up. More power to you….Lovelots…Romina

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Rominia,

Thanks for your feedback. You know, I had no idea that a number of the readers had problems with getting started and taking a bold action. Yes, do EFT! It can help!

All the best,
Evelyn

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Farnoosh - March 15, 2011 Reply

Dear Evelyn, this is a most timely post for me (even if I am a bit late here)… Not only do I want to take up water sports now – I feel exactly as you say about water but I am also a good swimmer … I am just afraid of sharks or something biting me and I can’t shake the fear even in the crystal clear waters of Hawaii – and I want to thank you for reinforcing my tough decision which takes all the guts and glory I can summon for execution. Big hug, huge thank you and beautiful writing, my dear Evelyn. Stay fearless and share your delightful adventures with us. I for one am truly grateful!

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Evelyn Reply:

Hello Farnoosh,

I am glad that you are intending to take up water sports LOL! I am still not a good swimmer but I have dived in Cancun, Mexico and a few other places in the world. While I was working as a banker previously, I spent most of my after-office hours on the beach. They were split between wakeboarding, sailing or windsurfing.

Becoming a mother changed a lot of things for me in how I spent my free time. Now that my children are older, I might just introduce my children to some of my favorite activities. They have been taking swimming lessons every week and are probably better swimmers than me by now…ha!

My philosophy is that it is best to have tried rather than not start at all. Yes, moving ahead seems risky. But as Oprah said, life is an adventure that is meant to be lived! Time is also of essence. I don’t want to look back in regret at the thought of all the things I didn’t do because of my fears.

I wish you much success in your future endeavors! You can do it!

Love and hugs,
Evelyn

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Farnoosh Reply:

Good enough for me if it has your stamp of approval, thank you dear Evelyn. I am forging ahead. It’s a made-up decision; I just have to execute now! Wish me luck and thank you again and again – and yes, sign those little kids up for some surfing lessons :)!

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Evelyn Reply:

Most certainly, I hope to sign my kids up for watersports classes. We are thinking of going diving as a family one day. Just don’t remind me about the sharks!!

Please forge ahead since you’ve already made up your mind. Any time delay can cause further analysis paralysis. If it aligns with your heart, just go for it!

All the best,
Evelyn

sss1389 - May 20, 2011 Reply

hey evelyn,
wat i wud want more than anything is to be bold and say exactly what i feel.your point about ‘looking perfect’ makes alot of sense.ive concluded that i dont really care if im perfect but i wish to potray that at any cost and in doing so have lost out on who i am so much so that i’m not really sure who i am anymore. ive become what people tell me i am.ive always taken the passive route,believing that in not standing up and letting things slide im being the bigger person.but noone except for me sees it that way and im having the worst time of my life feeling suppressed all the time when all i really want to do is shout out how exactly i feel without worrying about the other person’s reaction. please help!

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Jessica Martin - August 25, 2011 Reply

Superb Post and very inspiring site. My greatest obstacle in facing my fears is that I tend to want perfection. I have grown a lot in this area but still have room to grow more.

I find that for me my perfectionist streak brings me levels of anxiety, which brings me to a whole new fear to face, the anxiety itself.

Thnx for sharing it. :))

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Chloe - November 17, 2011 Reply

Thankyou so much for this! I’m only 16 so obviously I’ve still got a lot of life ahead of me but I’m very shy and have been feeling incredibly trapped lately, so I was really helped by this and your article on overcoming shyness (: you seem like an incredibly inspirational person, and – while I’ve still got a long way to go, as I’m pretty much the shyest person I know and have struggled with this since I was very small – you really motivate me to want to get out there, take risks and make the most of life.
That scrapbook is absolutely beautiful, by the way! Oh what I’d give to be creative 🙁

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