How To Restore Inner Harmony

Evelyn! You are back…this is my first visit since you have been gone and I am so unbelievably delighted to be here again! You bring such joy to my life.
As far as “unpopular choices”…well, being honest…ever since I have unfolded into my path of levity as my spiritual path (and professional too), I have faced such intense scrutiny, judgment, and jealousy from my dearest friends. It has been heartbreaking. And most of them have told me it is because they feel badly about their life and choices.
But what has been the most surprising is that while it is very sad to me, I feel a deep peace because I know the truth of this path I am on. I have no question that this is where I am meant to be. I feel a calmness and stillness even in the busy moments of life. Yahoo! And while it is disheartening to leave behind what I have invested in (friendships) the universe has been providing so many new and dear connections and openings. It has strengthened me to allow old skin to fall away and to trust in the emergence of this new and glowing body. It is cause to celebrate. (and so is you being back!!!!)

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 10:24 am

Hello Katie,

Oh my…you have to face “intense scrutiny, judgment and jealousy”? It must have been difficult for you, even whilst you realign to higher energies. I am glad to know that you have decided on a path that is in greater truth to who you are. I am sure that you’d agree with me that things have never looked the same since.

Most definitely, I celebrate the renewal that I see in you. May you continue to experience much love, laughter and levity!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

“each decision, whether right or wrong, leads me on a path of discovery that unfolds its learning lessons for me”. This is essential for me on my journey. I tend to follow my heart–which involves great risk and vulnerability–and when fear threatens to overshadow faith I just hold on to the fact that each step is the “right one” leading me to exactly where I am supposed to go. Even if my path is sometimes circuitous:)
As for my personal life, I’ve made a promise to live authentically and abundantly. Not many around me fully undesrtand my choices, and lots often have an opinion, but what keeps me grounded is the fact that I am living a dream; sometimes it’s arduous, sometimes it’s uphill, but I’m actually living fully, and it’s an amazing way to live! I raise my two children on a boat–quite an unconventional lifestyle–and the courage and faith it takes to do that expands which then allows me to make further changes so that each day my life better reflects exactly who I am and hopefully radiates light:)

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 11:00 am

What an inspiration you are! You certainly embody the courage to live your dreams. How wonderful that you have made the choice to raise your children on a boat and to decide on taking an unconventional lifestyle, one that is closer to the truth of who you are. I can totally relate to what you said about fear versus faith, and to your comment that your path is “sometimes circuitous”! May your path continue to unfold love, joy and peace to you!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

Victoria Reply:
November 28th, 2009 at 1:12 am

Joy,
Bravo!! to Your choice to live and raise children on a boat…
I can imagine the struggles within your choice, as well as, dealing with the outside opinions of others about your choice.
I have chosen to live in an RV, which is now paid for, rather than deal with a costly mortgage or worse, pay rent. Even though the choice makes good sense to myself, others around seem to find it odd and even unreasonable.
My first thought about their opinions was to attempt to convince them that I had made a good choice. Silly me!
There is no reason or way to convince others that own our intuition is working towards best choices for our lives.
There is only acceptance that others and their choices must be left to them. Correct?
Again…. Bravo!!!
What an adventure………..

To be honest, I see the title, another “How to fix your life”, and I think “Bullshit”.

Because it is. It’s bullshit.

There’s no how in it. Inner peace is a lifetime project. And frankly, any time some wannabe inspirational person tries to get some nice feel good comments back by giving a “how to”, it really does a disservice to the people diving into their shit. Because the writer of the “how to” is trying to fix others instead of dealing with theirs.

Jonathan | EnlightenYourDay.com Reply:
November 16th, 2009 at 12:17 pm

The only bullshit I found in this article was your comment:
“Because the writer of the “how to” is trying to fix others instead of dealing with theirs.”

You sound bitter and beyond help. My suggestion is to stay clear of blogs dealing with abundance and self-awareness. They will only serve as a beacon to show you how doomed your spirit has become.

Some people choose to freely share their inspirations, and that’s a good thing.

Jonathan

Steven Handel Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 9:28 am

I agree! There can never be too much wisdom in the blogosphere. We are too abundant to stop giving.

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 11:32 am

Hello Jonathan and Steven,

Thank you for “standing” up for bloggers in the personal development field. I was not aware of the controversy on my site here for at least a day. I was trying to recuperate from an allergy and had to be away from my laptop.

I am sure that you would agree with me that many of us who choose to blog hardly ever claim that we are enlightened or have answers to all the “how tos”. When we share, we come from the perspective that a certain process has helped us and perhaps, it can help someone else (who happens to be reading our blog) too! In the process of being real to ourselves, we inspire others who are aligned to the same message.

Abundance always,
Evelyn

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 11:21 am

Hello Amanda,

I am definitely not here to fix your life. I recognize that framing a title with the words “how to” can be somewhat misleading, at first glance. I wish to apologize for that. What I was trying to do was to share how I restored inner harmony when logic and intuition collide; and if a reader has decided to align with the higher self rather than the ego, then the article was meant to share the points of what has worked for me.

I am not sure if you have been following my blog. In my posts, I have mentioned several times about my own inner challenges and hangups. I also avoid positioning myself as some kind of “guru” because I am not.

Thank you for bringing up your perspective and allowing me the chance to correct what I have to say, for the benefit of all.

With love,
Evelyn

Victoria Reply:
November 28th, 2009 at 1:18 am

Amanda…
BS is in the eye of the beholder….
and hey, this is coming from a person divided, sitting in “both camps” today.
While going through my inbox, each uplifting inspirational points out to me, once again, how out of harmony my mind and heart are today.
Yet, each one wrote with sincereity and purpose. Each author set aside time to share their insights. They are gifts. We can sit and spin in our misery, which is what I am arguing with myself about at this moment, or accept that this is a light at the end of each tunnel on our life’s path.
BS is better smelt than walked in.
Huggs….

@Evelyn: Very nice article, written from the heart. Much truth in it, there is. You can “feel” the right path: it has feelings of peace, tranquility and a certain silence. The other path (the “not right” one) has feelings of urgency, rush, uneasiness.

As someone who’s “been there” I know exactly what you mean. However, people who want to “get there” and are in need of some help (Amanda?) could use some practical examples. This article would, in my opinion, deliver much more value if you added a personal example to it (as it seems to be “all theory” to the “untrained” eye).

@Amanda: I cannot see where in the article Evelyn is trying to change others. She’s talking about her internal challenges and the changes she went through. People tend to label others as they would label themselves. I would guess you are the one trying to change others – think of it for a while.

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 11:36 am

Point noted about bringing in a personal example in. I actually had that in my draft but deleted it out, as my article became too lengthy. However, you certainly do have a point that there may be those who’d find a personal example easier to understand and relate to!

Thank you, Gec!

With love,
Evelyn

I think you bring up such an important point: There is no such thing as a “wrong” decision. There are so, so many ways to create what we want, and life IS, as you say, about the exploration of the path and the experience of ourselves in various circumstances.

There are decisions that do not lead us directly to our desired outcome. Sometimes they lead us somewhere better, sometimes not.

You know I live and breathe my intuition … I recently embraced the concept of manifesting money in my business and got some … ummm …. mixed reactions from the “money isn’t spiritual” camp. 🙂 Which is what I was worried about, but the reality was far less scary then I had imagined. It’s scary to follow our intuition until we actually do it. Then we realize we were just procrastinating on the obvious.

Oh – ignore Amanda. That’s her own stuff she’s obviously working out. 🙂

Blessings,
Andrea

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 11:44 am

Hahaha…I can totally imagine the challenges that you face with some folks when it comes to talking on money. People can say what they want. More importantly, it is about ourselves resonating the truth of who we are – and the results (not that we need or are looking for them) will show for themselves naturally!

I am certainly not worried or bothered by Amanda. She doesn’t know me enough to make those comments.

All the best in your journey to empowering others in the area of manifesting money!

With love,
Evelyn

“The Art Of Surrender”…i love those words and I love being in that point of surrender.

@All I personally don’t want to ignore Amanda. I think she’s coming from a very valid place and has a good point.

Amanda – People like us who write blogs like these aren’t trying to fix anything. We all share a passion for writing and articulating our own experiences. Most of the time we speak from personal experiences and if those resonate with others, great! If not we don’t worry about it, we just carry on doing what we love doing.

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 11:52 am

Hello Amit,

Amanda has a good point if she knows the blogger to be positioning herself or himself as some enlightened guru or dishing out advice without walking the talk.

Most personal development bloggers I know, like yourself for instance, are pretty authentic. They share about their challenges. They tell their readers that they are on a journey and not as if they have reached a destination. Of course, they have a desire to inspire others – which is nothing “wrong” – because that very same desire inspires them to continue to work on themselves!

Most certainly, I am going to carry on doing what I love doing!

With love,
Evelyn

Hi Evelyn.
This hit home for me big time… “sorting out my feelings versus thoughts…” I haven’t recently made a major decision using my intuition, but there are a lot of unknown elements to be determined in my future. The art of surrender is an interesting one. When I “try” to surrender I end up holding on tighter. Other days I recognize that I’m coasting and enjoying the ride; then I realize… I’ve surrendered!

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 11:59 am

Davina,

You made a comment that was interesting: When I “try” to surrender I end up holding on tighter. I had the same experience initially. It was only when I decided to give myself space to explore my resistances, that I managed to have a breakthrough. Instead of feeling hurried for time to make a decision, I surrendered in the sense of embracing my resistances and working through my fears step-by-step. I find myself making very different life choices after deciding to listen to what my intuition tells me.

Hope all’s well with you!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

Hi Evelyn,

In my experience, whenever I have made a choice based on so called logic or doing what was considered right, I always end up in a bad situation. However, when I follow my heart and listen to my intuition, things always work out really well.

Society does not really value intuition and doing what is right for ourselves. Society likes to make things structured and ordered and places things in categories, thinking the catergories will just cover everything but they do not.

Even though I have made numerous choices based on my intuition, the feedback from those around me have not always been very supportive. Many people do not like it when you go against the grain. They will isolate you, condemn you and so on. I have experienced it all and it was not easy but I would never change a thing. For to have a clear conscience is priceless.

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 12:15 pm

Hello Nadia,

You certainly are one of those who are highly intuitive!

I have been experiencing isolation too. I also feel as if my decision to follow my intuition is not well supported. But like you, I will not have it any other way!

What is obvious is to have a whole new group of friends who are like minded. These days, I make it a point to have outside engagements as well, which will allow me the opportunity to “attract” friends who are aligned. The online community is great but I also enjoy the company of friends who are physically near. To me, the practice of abundance is being in harmony and congruent throughout my experiences – both inner and outer – family and work – online and offline. It will be great to have supportive friends, who have chosen the same path.

Abundance always,
Evelyn

If you live in the moment and find something to be grateful for, you can begin to live each day and look for your joy,karma, peace,love etc.
and we all need these to get through live ona daily basis.

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 12:19 pm

My idea is that if I can bring presence to my moments, then joy, peace and love naturally arises. I don’t have to go looking for these. When I bring presence, I am in the moment of now. I am not in the past or in the future. So I am centered here and now. Finding something to be grateful for helps in the act of centering.

With love,
Evelyn

Hi Evelyn, I recently discovered your blog and I’m glad I did. This was beautiful to read. What really spoke to me was the importance of not rushing to a decision, to surrender to being with the conflicting thoughts and emotions for a while, and to find some solitude and space to let it all unfold.

Thanks for sharing this.
Cheers,
Miche

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 12:21 pm

Hello Miche,

Welcome to my site! Ahh….you have articulated very beautifully what I hope to share in my article in a single sentence. I will be checking out your site soon!

Abundance always,
Evelyn

I love the idea that the solution for any situation I have created in my life lies in the answer or answers that satisfy both my intuitive and logical aspects. And that when this answer comes, it brings inner harmony with it. I understand that and have experienced that. Thank you for reminding me that I already know how this feels!

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 12:22 pm

Good for you, Camille! I wish you continued peace, abundance and joy!

With love,
Evelyn

Yes our life our lives are all different no any two people are the same .
We interprete things differently as our personas are different .When I have some movement in my life and things need attention I also sit quietly and listen to my inner voice.I try not intentially hurt anyone ,I am honest ,I dont sabotage myself , I listen to my self and then think is this the right move for me what will be the consequences.Corse and affect I try to bring this in to my journey as much as possible .I dont wish harm on any of my fellow beings.
Thankyou for your sharing .
Roz

Evelyn Reply:
November 17th, 2009 at 12:23 pm

It’s great that you have every intention of doing what is wise! Thank you too for sharing your thoughts!

With love,
Evelyn

The question is how do we distinguish between true intuition and the shouts of the thinking mind. The thinking mind is loud and conflicted, especially when Essence is telling us to make choices with are unconventional. The ego likes approval and security and control.

For me, it has been awareness and letting go. The letting go is probably very similar to what you call surrender.

And then with some experience we learn to trust and be open.

Great post, thanks!

Evelyn Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 5:09 pm

Hello Kaushik,

Oh yes…it is difficult to discern what comes from the thinking versus the intuitive mind. I find myself torn at this stage many times. As you’ve pointed out, it is with experience that I learn to trust the intuitive voice.

Abundance always,
Evelyn

wonderful way to sort out own logic.

Evelyn Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 5:09 pm

Great 🙂

Hi, Evelyn!
Just recently, I stayed true to my authentic self by turning down a job that didn’t resonate with my core. I could have used the money, but something in me said, “You don’t belong here… You’re not about this anymore.” It was scary in some ways because job offers don’t exactly fly in every day, yet I couldn’t deny what my intuition was telling me: there’s something better suited coming down the pike.
In many ways, I’m lucky that I live alone and answer only to myself. I can trust my gut and live with its guidance, whereas others have partners and kids to be held accountable to.
I appreciated reading your experience along these lines – and look forward to learning more about how you stay true to who you authentically are.

Evelyn Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 5:15 pm

Hello Megan,

I definitely know how it feels like to turn down an offer that appears to be more financially rewarding than the path that you have chosen. I also acknowledge that family considerations can make the decision all that much harder. It is not easy to live in discomfort; on the other hand, following my intuition challenges me to continue working on myself. Having a sense of what I would ultimately like in terms of lifestyle helps guide my decision making process.

All the best to you!
Evelyn

I don’t know about you, but I feel bad for the ego. It’s so stupid. It’s supposed to react when you make a decision against it. I think that if you know that is not you and you’re not your thoughts and you love something or everything it’s the end for the ego.
We have to admit that we don’t things as they are now, meaningless. I think everyone here is on the right way, BUT don’t get to naiv. Naivate is the great danger most advances spiritual students have, not keeping their guard up, they fall into hatred,anger etc.

wish you peace and love Evelyn
and hope to see more great posts from you 🙂

Evelyn Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 5:19 pm

Hello Florin,

On the contrary, I view the ego as a great learning tool. More recently, any situation that can potentially trigger anger or frustration is a source of learning lessons for me. Of course, it took me a long time to get to my stage and I still have a long way to go. But I have since learn never to ignore my resistances and to take the space and time to work through my ego issues.

I wish you much peace and love too!

Evelyn

This post is exactly what I needed Evelyn. I’ve been making lots of decisions lately that make no logical sense. Decided to stop working on a business that was very promissing, took off couple of my products that were selling and bringing income, divorced a person who is really wonderful. But unlike Amanda suggests I don’t feel “screwed up” at all, I feel that I am so close to living fullfilled and authentic life and I feel good about those decisions.

No one is perfect nor claims to be, we all have challenges and lots of flaws but by sharing our experiences we can all only benefit.

Evelyn Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 5:25 pm

Hahaha…I can certainly relate to making a lot of decisions that do not make logical sense. Yours certainly sound like few would understand what you are doing. I ditched a number of money-making businesses to have the time to work through my own inner issues myself and to focus on personal development on the side.

Indeed, no one can ever claim to be perfect or have all the answers. As personal development bloggers, we are pointing out what has worked for us after having gone through some madness.

Abundance always,
Evelyn

Hi Evelyn
I read this yesterday morning and it along with some other things inspired me to write a song for John and Edward from the X-Factor.
It’s about seeing the brighter side of life.
I called it Leapfroggin’.
Leapfroggin’ across the lilypads of life.
Will you be able to help me to contact him so I can give him the lyrics and sing him the basic tune please?
Kind regards
Karen

Evelyn Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 5:26 pm

Don’t understand what you mean. Who is John and Edward from the X-Factor? I do not follow this series.

Kindly explain!
Evelyn

Karen Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 4:56 am

Hi Evelyn. The X Factor is a talent competition in the UK to find a new pop star/group. Simon Cowel, Louis Walsh, Danni Minogue and Cheryl Cole are the judges and the public can vote for who they want to win. John and Edward or JEdward as they have now become known as, have been a group that got a lot of bad press for being rubbish and yet at the same time, the public love them and they are getting closer to winning. Louis Walsh will sign them up with a contract whether they win or not as he is very proud of discovering them.
Your comments about listening to your intuition, and noticing the signs given to you made me really take notice of them the other day and I wrote a song that is catchy, will mean something to everyone and it’s a happy song. The song is perfect for this new band, JEdward. I want to be able to send my lyrics and the tune to Louis Walsh so they can make my song into a record.
So I am asking every one that I come in contact with if they know of how I can get in contact with Louis Walsh.
I hope this now makes more sense.
All the best,
Karen.

Self discovery is a personal process and I’m glad you have found yours. Unfortunately, not all prefer the path you have gone, they instead wallow in the noises of their minds and lives in confusion and misery.

To those who have been, they will understand what you are saying here.

With the mind in control, man cannot attain inner harmony. 🙂

Evelyn Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 5:27 pm

Hello Walter,

Quite right that not all will prefer the path I have chosen!

With love,
Evelyn

Beautiful points.

I was actually revisiting this question recently. For me, it’s about using emotions as input, testing my intuition, and improving my critical thinking. Techniques like Six Thinking Hats help me balance the perspectives and, I know the limits of depending on certain inputs (for example, intuition is great for some scenarios, and dangerous for others … etc.)

Evelyn Reply:
November 18th, 2009 at 5:31 pm

Hmmm….can you explain how paying attention to intuition can be dangerous? I am here to learn how best to do things as much as everyone else. As far as I could recall, I was mostly in misery when I refused to listen to my intuition. Then again, if I solely listened to intuition, my logical mind refused to stop bugging me. So what has worked for me is to find a way for harmony between the intuitive and thinking mind.

With love,
Evelyn

Hi Evelyn,
What a wonderful article …..so needed in this day and age of everything logic. I should know…I have logic in me like blood running through my veins…so it took me a lot of work to get to a point where only my intuition mattered. I had to take the plunge once…go where my intuition was leading me…and when that became a success…I knew how I had to tread on this journey of life.
Today I am happily going with my intuitiona d loving each moment of my life.. I couldnt have asked for anything more….everything else in life just seems to fall in place after that 🙂
Lovely post as always.
Lots of love and Joy to you,
Z

Evelyn, sorry for the double comment….I am not sure..if my last comment came through or not…:( cant see it on the page……Ohh technology can be so weird sometimes :)………………

Evelyn Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 9:53 am

I know what you mean when you describe logic running like blood in your veins. It took me a lot of work to get me to decide to try things differently for a change. Of course, I still thread on discomfort. If it was so easy, it would have been almost impossible to write this post about how the process has been like for me.

Great that everything seems to fall in place for you 🙂 All the best!

Evelyn

I relate to this very well, I think making decisions, and listening to my intuition, is very similar for me. I think you communicated it wonderfully (as always). And yes, I have made some very unpopular decisions in my life, including leaving my corporate career and all that. And I am pondering some new ones now. This was a needed reminder to me that I may have to clear the decks a bit, to allow some space in myself for insight to arise.

Evelyn Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 9:56 am

The decision making process has not been easy for me, because things are less obvious to me to simply take the logical route but increasingly leaning towards paying heed to the intuitive feelings inside. Leaving the corporate world and all is something I can relate to only too well!

All the best in making your new ones!

With love,
Evelyn

Evelyn, for a moment I thought I had landed on Liara Covert’s blog, the wisdom you share sounds very much in the vein of what always uplifts me and opens my mind to new levels of awareness over at her DreambuildersAustralia journal. Wait,are you sisters?

Liara also relates that there are no wrong decisions, just steps on our journey back to core love.

I believe myself to function more on intuition than not, which doesn’t always make me “understood” by a lot of people but does make me a rather happy sort.

Welcome back, a bit of a potentially bumpy road in the comments here, but a valuable lesson in compassion and honesty.

Evelyn Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 10:00 am

Hello Jannie,

Glad to be connected with you once again on my site. Oh no…I am far from being as aware as Liara. I certainly find her a great inspiration!

Good that you already function more on intuition. I have lots to learn from you too 🙂

Oh yes…I have often taken blogging and blog comments as a basis in doing more inner work and clarifying my personal values.

With love,
Evelyn

Hi Evelyn .. well that was interesting .. and I’m not fully engaged in these choices yet, as I need to be ‘alone’ more to be able to be just me .. and that in recent years hasn’t really been possible with elderly, as there is more than one life and the family & falling within the boundaries of society. I can see what everyone is saying, especially you, and Jannie with her thoughts on Liara’s blog – I ‘struggle’ to comprehend .. but I’m around, learning and that’s the most important thing.

One thing relevant to Amanda .. and this I have learnt, not always practised perfectly in the outside world, but something I practise on blogs, facebook etc – is not to criticise – that person has written an article, made a comment – sometimes way too quickly .. especially FB – I either walk away from the site, or ignore it FB, or think about what the person is saying and comment positively, complementarily on some aspect of the thought process.

Criticism or the need to criticise .. means we actually need to evaluate ourselves often .. and most often it doesn’t matter to me .. it will wash away – I may not agree, or think that person hasn’t thought through their reply etc .. but tough – doesn’t need to impact on my life.

But don’t hurt others – in this day and age we are all different … lets live happily, positively, making this earth a better place.

Your blog and friends’ blogs offer so much – thank you everyone and you especially Evelyn with yours in the here and now .. now I feel better – my inner harmony has been restored.
Thanks – Hilary Melton-Butcher
Positive Letters Inspirational Stories

Hi Evelyn .. I’m doing the double today .. I came back because I wanted to click in to see ‘who Amanda is’ .. but I see there is no link – need I say more? I have a comment to one of my posts, that I haven’t published, because the link goes through to a ‘nothing blogspot site’ .. so I’ve left it unpublished. I’ve only had one or two ‘selfish’ comments relevant to their own sites or businesses and I’m happy to publish those if they’re relevant to the particular subject I’ve written on: does me no harm and I’m following the maxim I suggest above. Hilary

Evelyn Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 10:08 am

Hello Hilary,

Amanda did not leave her site’s name. She probably does not have one, which is why it does not go to any website link.

I welcome points for me to note but not if the comment goes into attacks or criticisms of others (whether myself or other personal development bloggers). It is the ego’s need to criticize. We really need to look within before making hasty judgments of others.

While visiting another person’s site, if I do not resonate with a post, I simply refrain from making any comment. If I feel that it is important to point out certain things, it is not about the blogger but about the content that I am commenting on. Still, I very much prefer not to say anything because what I perceive on the surface (through a blog post) may not be an accurate or complete reflection of what is going on with the blogger.

With love,
Evelyn

Evelyn — Great post. It is so nice to read your writings again. They always give me a fresh perspective on things and make me look a bit deeper into myself.

As I read this post, I remembered a situation in which my intuition led me to do something I NEVER do. Perhaps from watching too many crime shows, I never stopped for cars on the side of the road.

However, one night while driving on a back road with my young daughter (even more reason not to stop), I saw a car off the road and something told me I had to stop. Even as my daughter said, “MOM, what you are doing?” I pulled over and went over to the car (another NO-NO).

Inside was a young mom with a very very young baby. Her car had broken down. This was a time when cell phones weren’t as common. So, neither she nor I had a phone. We ended up taking her to the nearest gas station and then waiting for her husband to come and get her.

I never regretted following that feeling!

Thanks for reminding me about this:~)

Evelyn Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 10:15 am

Hello Sara,

Oh wow….it’s great that your experience with stopping for a car ended well.

There was once my husband stopped for a guy who was drunk on and on the sidewalk of a major junction. He looked liked a foreigner and certainly did not look well. I was not happy with my husband for taking him into the car and wanting to give him a lift. My kids were also in the car then. While I was sympathetic, I didn’t think it was particularly safe to offer to drive him home in our car. A better alternative would have been to get him a taxi. Luckily, nothing awful happened on the way to his place!

With love,
Evelyn

Hi Evelyn!

I have found that inner conflict is about weighing or reasoning out whatever may be going on for you at any particular moment. And all senses are in play! And if you are at a point in your life were you are working on challenging beliefs, traditions, long term patterns, etc. It increases the internal conflict because we are not sure of what our inner self is presenting now. It is also about positionality and when we are in the throws of change or challenging belief systems we tend to not have a strong line of position to set core beliefs as the foundational…response system that allows us an ease and calm in dealing with all that we are and do. If that makes any sense to you? I find sometimes a simple defination of love or joy or kindness can make all the difference in the inner conflict. Its all so connected to what our focus is.

Right now I am in the middle of a huge life change and with it my emotions and thoughts are currently being what they are, a place where I can view my highest concerns for my welfare and those of my kids. You see to me my values and core beliefs are the reason this change is happening and within it I am learning about me and others here. I am allowing what I am to be accepted through this process and being grateful has been a practice which has greatly helped me. I also agree that surrender is so benficial too when we allow…what we are to just be. The peace and the calm come, even within great change and transition. I have learned to accept others and see truth in ways that are very hard for me to accept. But each day this actually is moving me to move forward more freely without attachments to falshoods that once were blocks to forward progress and of the ever loving of life and joy and peace. Hope that made sense….to you!

Peace, Love and Joy,
Diane

Evelyn Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 10:38 am

Hello Diane,

I am not sure if I can grasp the full extent of what you are hoping to say but I do have a sense of it. Yes, I am challenging the way I have been so used to making decisions (previously through logic, making popular or socially acceptable choices and unquestioned ways of belief). And because I have decided to do things differently, everything appears to come into the open for me to examine. Indeed, it is a transitional period of change to reach a state of calm.

Realizing what is the highest priority for me, which is my family, has also been helpful for me in anchoring my choices. I take many of the daily life situations I come to in as a way of pinpointing what I need to work on or clarify myself in.

Indeed, every day is a day of bringing us to greater freedom from our fears. We find ourselves gradually aligning to who we really are – peace, love and joy. We are on a journey of unfolding inner experiences, inter-mirrored by our physical reality, to reconnect with our true essence.

Namaste.
Evelyn

Hi Evelyn – I love your new blog – what an awesome name.

Like you, I struggle to untangle intuitive messages from everything else. I was beginning to lose patience with myself – and feeling like I’d never “get it”. So, it’s reassuring to know that I’m not the only one who struggles with this.

Evelyn….
Thank You!
My Inner Harmony is lagging today, yet, I appreciate You sharing bits of your life with others………
Huggs….

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