Improve Your Relationship with Money: From Dating to Developing Intimacy

When you are just starting out to improve your relationship with money, it is possible to feel lost. You may not know where to begin. It’s not like you were ever taught how to change your money relationship in your school days.


What can be helpful is to imagine the relationship as one that is romantic. And so, the question to ask is: how do you bring more life to a relationship that is stagnant, unhealthy and a struggle?

“There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.” Deepak Chopra

Well, consider the different phases that a romantic relationship will go through; that is from dating to developing love and true intimacy. Next, draw on the understanding to apply it in the context of your relationship with money.

As you begin, here are 3 important reminders:

1. You already have an existing relationship with money, whether you have been previously aware of it or not.

2. You can’t exactly “divorce” money. You need to accept money, being a medium of exchange, as part of your life.

3. You will have to make it work somehow.


Improve Your Relationship with Money: The Dating Phase

Remember how exciting it can be when you are in the dating phase of a relationship?

Well, this is the phase when you are eager to find out more about the other party. You hope to get to know what your partner is like? What are his/her interests? How do you attract him/her into your life?

So, begin to date money. Go on long walks. It is when you start to ask fundamental questions:
– Who or what is this money energy?
– What is the cause of your sleepless nights?
– Who is this that leaves you hankering for more when its absence is felt?
– Why do you need money?

In other words, dedicate this phase to learning about what money is, how the Universe works and the Law of Attraction.


Improve Your Relationship with Money: The Doubt Phase

Somewhere along the way, doubts start to creep in.

From previous experiences, you begin to doubt if committing to more dates is ever going to work. You have not had a successful relationship with it before. Think about all the disappointments! How is it going to be different this time?

The opposite of doubt is trust. Trust means that you give yourself the permission to pursue an understanding of money. You trust that an understanding of money does not necessarily lead to an obsession of it. You can choose to take charge! It’s what you want. You want to improve your relationship with money. And so, you are willing to give a healthy and balanced attention to money, including your attitude towards it.


Improve Your Relationship with Money: The Struggle Phase

Both the doubt and struggle phases usually occur quickly after the blissful courtship period. The honeymoon period is clearly over! You are questioning more. This is when you start to confront each other about your differences.

Ironing out conflicts is key during this period.

What are your beliefs that are not congruent if you are hoping to attract money?
What is the money story that you are telling?
Is fear ruining your relationship?

This is the phase that calls for letting go of your fears and bringing more unconditional love in! If you have been mistaken before, you get to work on resolving conflicts. You clear your negative emotions and remove your limiting beliefs around it. You come to terms with it. You shift into better-feeling thoughts.

“Love is a verb. It’s an action requiring your involvement and your active participation. You cannot sit back and expect the world will serve it to you. You cannot expect that your relationship will continue to provide love while you’re not putting in any effort. Love has to be earned and must be continually fought for.” Stephen Covey


Improve Your Relationship with Money: The Commitment & Intimacy Phase

What is it like to be in a committed relationship?

This phase may appear to be boring. It is when things get repetitious and practical. It is when you dive into details.

The commitment phase includes learning how to manage money. It involves matters such as savings, investing, budgeting and so on. It means having to study and finding better ways to grow your wealth. You may also be consulting expert advice.

This phase is not necessarily dull when you start to reap rewards. You are developing true intimacy. You are learning how to manage your emotional reactions to money. With improved communication, you now speak the language of money. There is ease and confidence in the relationship. It is how you are able to raise the vibration of your relationship with money. It is bringing you plenty of wedded bliss! You are attracting more and more money energy love!!


Make Money a Friend

True love is about growing as a couple, learning about each other and never giving up on each other.

It’s the same when it comes to working on  improving your relationship with money. Develop greater understanding as you go through the different phases from dating to developing intimacy. As it is often said, Energy flows where focused attention goes. When you give a balanced attention to money, it naturally flows into your life.


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It is up to you to create the relationship that you want. Be a great friend or partner and stand to profit from the healthy partnership you have with money! If you want to attract more money, improving your relationship with money is clearly a must.


Love and Abundance Always,



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Suzie Cheel - April 17, 2017 Reply

Evelyn I love this post- very insightful and clever. Love phases and so true when we love and make money our friend we open ourselves to the flow of money energy too xxx


Evelyn Reply:

Hello Suzie, I am glad you like this post. Many people have huge resistances to money. There is heaviness when it comes to looking at money issues. I’m looking for ways to make relating to money more fun, creative and light-hearted.

Thank you for sharing your feedback,
Evelyn xo


Debbie L Hampton - April 18, 2017 Reply

Evely, the suggestion to treat your relationship with money like a personal relationship makes so much sense. It’s true we can”t just divorce money and be done with it. So, we better figure it out. I’m in the struggle phase. I.m working on it. Hoping to move to the abundance phase. Thank you for your guidance!


Evelyn Reply:

Hi Debbie,

I’m so glad that you can see that it makes so much sense. Well, if you need help to overcome the struggle phase, let me know. I’d be glad to assist 🙂

Love and abundance always,



Elle Sommer - April 19, 2017 Reply

Hi Evelyn, the idea of handling money as lovingly as we would any relationship is a great one. Ultimately I suppose we have a relationship with all things in our world to a greater or lesser degree. It’s a good thing to ponder. 🙂


Evelyn Reply:

Yes, we do. You are insightful! In fact, I am sharing more about relationships with the world in my next article 🙂 Do look out for it!


Sandra Pawula - April 19, 2017 Reply

Hello Evelyn, I love this framework for exploring and keeping our relationship to money. I need to start out in the dating phase. 🙂


Evelyn Reply:

Hello Sandra, I hope your dates are turning out great!

To love and laughter,


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