Lessons Learned From The Law of Attraction
(lessons from the pebble; photo by antony_mayfield)
Her domain name, Happy Lotus, made me smile the first time I saw it. Lotus represents peace and compassion. But “Happy Lotus” clearly has a joyous ring to it too. Today’s guest post is by Nadia Ballas-Ruta of Happy Lotus. Nadia emailed me about having personal experiences of how her thoughts created her reality. I am honored to feature her message in an article about the law of attraction on my site.
The Lessons Learned From The Law of Attraction
Written by Nadia Ballas-Ruta
Back in 1998, I was watching an episode of Oprah where she said that a lesson keeps being repeated until it is learned. What she said next is the only other thing I remember from that show: “Life first will send the lesson to you in the size of a pebble; if you ignore the pebble, then life will send you a brick; if you ignore the brick, life will send you a brick wall; if you ignore the brick wall, life will send you a demolition truck.” How little did I know at that time that her advice would be the exact method of how I learned my lesson regarding the Law of Attraction.
The Pebble: Learning the Power of the Goal Book
I first became aware of the law of attraction when my mom was reading one of the Chicken Soup For The Soul books. I do not recall which particular book of the series it was but I remember that there was a passage where a woman had collected images from magazines that represented the things that she wanted in her life. The woman claimed that within three years she had attained everything she had placed in her goal book.
The concept sounded legit to me and in retrospect (considering how I was at that time), I have no idea why. I then bought a bunch of magazines and tore the pictures that represented what I wanted: a law degree (picture of a diploma which I wrote law degree on); a picture of a luxury high-rise apartment building; and finally a picture with a woman on her way to work as her husband slept and she had everything she wanted in life. Within a year, I began law school and was living in a luxury high rise apartment. You would think this would be enough evidence that the law of attraction was correct and powerful. It wasn’t.
The Brick: The Lesson of Visualization
Six months into law school, I realized that I wanted to work at the office U.S. Senator Edward Kennedy. John F. Kennedy was someone whom I admired greatly and I so much wanted to work for his brother. I would walk by his office building and visualize going to work there. I then found out that his office was accepting applications. I sent mine in and to make a long story short, I got the job and every aspect that I had visualized came true. However, I still was not convinced about the power of the law of attraction.
The Brick Wall: The Law of Attraction Works According to the Intensity of Your Thoughts and Feelings
As you may recall, in my goal book I had an image of a romantic relationship where the woman in the image was on her way to work while her husband was still in bed. The goal of finding the right man was one of the goals that I really did not focus on because I was so distracted with other things and my attitude towards romance was not healthy at that time.
I used to suffer from the concept that I needed a man to complete me. Once I learned to love myself and held the image of a healthy relationship in my mind, that is when it arrived. Interestingly, at that stage of my life, I used to leave for work earlier than my husband so each morning looked like the picture which was in my original goal book.
Despite getting all the things I wanted in my goal book, I never made the connection that the law of attraction worked because in the course of the day I was influenced by the forces that surrounded me. At that time in my life, the majority of people in my life were somewhat cynical and had the belief that people have to be practical. Being positive and believing you could achieve your dreams was considered naïve. That is when the demolition truck came into play.
The Demolition Truck: The Law of Attraction Works on the Negative Side Also
Around the time I had met my husband, I discovered the music of singer/songwriter Jewel. I read up on her life and was impressed with how she became homeless in order to focus on finding her passion in life. Her mother wrote a book (The Architecture of All Abundance) where she described how the purpose of Jewel’s homelessness was to help her find her passion and make her dreams come true.
Upon reading this book, I realized that I so much needed to take the time to find my passion and to discover my dreams. I was tired of being surrounded by people who were so negative. I imagined the freedom of Jewel’s experience and it seemed beautiful. I started to crave the same thing and thought about it all the time.
Within a year, I got that freedom but it came with many hardships because my family and some of my friends thought I had lost my mind because I stopped my career to focus on myself. They treated me as if I were homeless because my financial status was lower than it had been before. Things were very tight economically and it was scary. It was then that I finally learned my lesson regarding the Law of Attraction.
Don’t Forget The Specifics
Once I finally comprehended the power of the Law of Attraction, I went ahead and started creating a way of life that I wanted. I made another goal book. In my free time, I visualize what I want and I do it with a firm belief that someway and somehow it will happen. However, it is important to be specific in what you want.
Jewel had the full support of her family when she went to focus on finding her calling. I ignored that fact and was solely focused on having the experience. It never occurred to me that friends and family would react the way that they did. Therefore, be specific in what you want; imagine every single detail as you would like it to be.
Don’t diffuse your focus and energy by telling others about your desires and goals. Imagine holding a magnifying glass over a piece of paper in order to focus the rays of the sun so it can catch on fire. If you move the glass around, you are but scattering the energy and have no definite focus thus the paper will never burn. If, however, you keep the glass steady, you maintain a focus and your goal will be accomplished much sooner. Also, it is unfortunate but many people upon hearing your goals and desires will openly (or secretly) impose their doubts on your ability to accomplish them and because of that, soon you may even start to doubt yourself. That, to some degree, nullifies or delays the result you wish.
So go ahead and create your life – do your part and the rest will fall into place! The Law of Attraction really does work…don’t wait for the demolition truck to come into your life!
About Nadia and Happy Lotus
(photo by Swami Stream)
Through her site, Nadia hopes to help us realize that our thoughts and feelings are very powerful and that we are the blueprint of our reality. In short, we can find our own version of happiness if we are persistent and determined enough. She wants it be known that each of us has a purpose and how beautiful we are.
She has a lovely mission, don’t you think? Do check out her site at Happy Lotus!!
Abundance always,
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