How to Resolve Relationship Conflict

“The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.” Barbara de Angelis

Perhaps there have been past hurts, karmic influences or unresolved issues. And so, you may have found it hard to completely forgive. There could be that old grudge, a niggling sense of blame, a feeling of betrayal….which did not all go away, despite the outward appearance of a resolution.

The tear inside your heart may well be the reason why you sabotage your relationship every now and then. You may have taken the steps to mend it but the slightest of wounds – if anything – remains.

Well, most couples I know go into the occasional argument or conflict with each other.

In fact, I do not know of any couples who have the “perfect” relationship….except maybe one or two. Even then, with these “perfect” couples, I have also noticed that there had been situations of unhappiness between them that had arose.

The point I am trying to make is that: there is always room to love a little more each day.

An Opportunity to Practice

Two weekends ago, I went into a conflict situation with my husband. He wanted support for an event that I had deemed unimportant. Because I had perceived it to be unimportant, I was reluctant to spend precious time attending it. At first, I tried to understand his perspective; but even after his explanation, I was unable to appreciate its importance.

You can just imagine what happened next.

The conflict escalated to calculating who was giving more support to the other in the relationship.

Fortunately, in the midst of the conflict, I had the awareness to reflect: what matters most?

All of a sudden, I could see that my logical mind wanted him to give me solid reasons so that I can reach perfect understanding. However, I also realised that not all things needed to be fully understood. Even though I wanted the time to do something else, I had spent it on getting into an argument.

It was not worth fighting over something small.

What mattered most was what I could do to build a stronger relationship.

Setting aside my ego, I decided to learn to give unconditional support.

Build Love in Your Relationship

“The greatest relationships are the ones you never expected to be in, the ones that swept you off your feet and challenged every view you’ve had.” anonymous

Your spouse is a great teacher. What irritates you about him holds a learning lesson for yourself. In many relationships, the process involves a gradual shedding of layers that allows you the opportunity to connect more deeply with the soul and, ultimately, with each other.

Increasingly, you unveil a more authentic self who is able to love more unconditionally. Where before you keep scores, you learn to give yourself more willingly to the relationship. It now matters less on who inflicted more hurt. It also mattes less that you have to swallow your pride to say that you are sorry.

With your openness to letting go, you experience harmony, acceptance and patience. These are all key qualities of a loving relationship. At its purest, love – in a relationship – is the divine nectar that arises from a meeting of hearts, in a beautiful union of souls.

Love and Abundance Always,

Abundance Alchemy Coach

P.S. Unconditional self-love is the secret to finding more love in your relationship! For more information, click over to Self-Love Secrets: How to Love Yourself Unconditionally!

P.S.S. I am so excited! I will be flying off to the States for a workshop tomorrow. Hence, I will be updating my blog only after I return. In the meantime, take care!

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