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Tips on Attracting Healthy And Loving Relationships.
Tips on Attracting Healthy And Loving Relationships.
Are you a stressed out mom?
As mothers, we have multiple tasks to fulfill such as preparing meals for our children, supervising their homework, and making sure their needs are met. We may also need to handle domestic chores, face our clients, run our businesses or meet work datelines as well as mange the household finance. It is no wonder that many mothers experience overwhelm. And should the relationships with our spouse be difficult, stress can hit a high.
“The first time around as a mom, I held on really tight and I was so stressed.” – Bridgette Wilson
Triggers for the Stressed Out Mom
Being a mother myself, I know that stress is something that I have to learn to overcome. While my children have brought me tremendous joy, bringing them up has certainly not been a walk in the park. One stress trigger for me is trying to meet the demanding educational standards here in Singapore.
How to believe in yourself could be a question that confounds you when you don’t find yourself special, unique or have any attributes that make you stand out. Believing can feel “hard” when you perceive that you have got nothing to show for. As someone who has wrestled with low confidence for years, I understand how difficult it must be to know where to start.
How do you even begin the process of believing in yourself? If you tend to downplay yourself in every way, believing in yourself can be a difficult exercise. Well, I would like to share what has worked for me with some of the tips in this post.
Resigning yourself that you will never find out how to believe in yourself is not the answer. You already know by now what low confidence can do to you. The outcome is downright miserable.
Positive affirmations for women are helpful to use if you are struggling with limiting beliefs due to gender issues. For instance, do you have the view or negative self-talk that you are less deserving of success, less worthy of respect or that you can’t make as much money because you perceive yourself to be the weaker sex? Or that you need to be of certain body proportions to qualify as being more attractive?
Well, what you say to yourself is backed by the limiting beliefs that you hold. Hence, I suggest changing your thought patterns so that you can bring about a more balanced state of empowerment. Your beliefs have an impact on your life experiences.
You can find yourself experiencing low self-esteem, poor body image, inability to accept aging as you approach your 40s or 50s and difficulties with manifesting money and abundance. As I have found from working with others, more women than men tend to struggle with issues related to gender roles because of the disparity in society’s expectations of them.If you have immense challenges with accepting and appreciating your role as a woman, I recommend using positive affirmations to reverse old thinking.
Are you currently in the stage where you are ready to give up on your business?
My suggestion: Not just Yet.
Not until you have finished reading this post on 3 Feet from Gold.
“Failure is a trickster with a keen sense of irony and cunning. It takes great delight in tripping one when success is almost in rich.” – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
The story 3 Feet from Gold is a story that has kept me inspired over the years. It is a tale that has kept me going on as an entrepreneur, especially during challenging times. As with many business owners, my journey has not always been that smooth. I have been through feast-famine cycles and everything in between.
“Before success comes in anyone’s life, that individual is sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a person, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to QUIT. That is exactly what the majority of people do.” Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill
I hope to share with you what has helped me all this time, if you have not heard this story or read the classic Think and Grow Rich book. The entrepreneurial mindset of not giving up has kept me in the game. It has helped me build tenacity even when times are difficult.
“When people ask us how long does it take for something to manifest, we say, “it takes as long as it takes you to release the resistance. Could be 30 years, could be 40 years, could be 50 years, could be a week, could be tomorrow afternoon.” Abraham-Hicks
You have watched the Movie The Secret.
You have read the Law of Attraction books.
You are repeating abundance mantras everyday.
You are even writing Abundance Checks for manifesting at the start of every new moon.
So why is it that your manifesting is not working?
Where’s the money? Where’s the soul mate that you hope to attract? And if you are running a business, where are the truckloads of clients eager to work with you?
You look around and you ask: Why is it happening for everyone else except for you?
Are you experiencing mom guilt because your business is taking an important place in your priority list….so much so that you are not able to be 100% present for your kids sometimes?
Mom guilt is the worst stealer of joy that can inflict a mompreur who’s trying her best to do the juggling act.
You have been saying yes to the following…
attending to the important sales call
preparing a marketing launch
doing facebook lives
and cutting down on the following….
– joining the parent support group for your kid’s school
– baking cookies for children parties
– monitoring your children in their homework
– organizing play dates and other social events with other moms
– cooking family dinners
– breastfeeding beyond 6 months…
and the list goes on.
I found out that mom guilt never quite go away completely. Even though my girls are teenagers and need a lot less time from me, I still experience the mom guilt every once in a while. Then again, it has not stopped me from establishing the clear boundary between business and my two girls. I have not allowed mom guilt to stop me from pursuing what I want nor use it as an excuse to give up my business altogether.
How to transform your relationship with money?
Perhaps you are used to the idea of consulting a financial advisor or a banker on money matters….but it could feel weird to envisage having a relationship with money, much less transform it.
I get it. The idea of having a relationship with money may not be something that you often come across. As someone who used to work in a bank, I certainly did not see this in any of its training manuals. It’s also not a topic that was taught in school. Still, these reasons aside, it’s never too late to begin having a whole new perspective towards money.
Let’s backtrack a little.
Why even bother with the idea of improving your relationship with money?
Well, when you improve your relationship with money, you are going to be in less struggle. A state of struggle is just going to attract more struggle, while being more at ease is going to attract more ease into your life. You’d want money to flow easily into your life, isn’t it?
Overview of the Enneagram Type 9: The Peacemaker, Mediator, Spiritual Seeker
If you are an Enneagram Type 9, you are about harmony. You are peace-loving, trusting, easy-going and even-tempered. Your mantra is to go with the flow. Sitting on the crown of the Enneagram, you hold spiritual instincts. What is ironical is that despite your orientation to spirituality, you are potentially the most grounded in the physical world.
You exude a positive energy. What appeals is the pleasant side of life. You enjoy being stress-free and desire life to be effortless. Being optimistic, you carry the faith that things will somehow work out on its own. Your belief is that everything will be okay should everyone stay cool and collected and no one rocks the boat.
“If you have fear of some pain or suffering, you should examine whether there is anything you can do about it. If you can, there is no need to worry about it; if you cannot do anything, then there is also no need to worry.” — 14th Dalai Lama
Overview of the Enneagram Type 5: The Observer, Investigator, Thinker, Sage
If you are an Enneagram Type 5, you are intellectual, informed and logical. You are an observer of life, and prefer to stay on the sidelines. You like others to see you as someone wise, perceptive and knowledgeable.
You prefer to conserve your energy instead of participating or engaging actively in life. Staying on the sidelines is your way of maintaining calm and composure in a seemingly chaotic world. To make sense of the chaos, you seek refuge in knowledge. Subject mastery appeals to you. As an Enneagram Type 5, you are part of the thinking triad (Types 5, 6 and 7).
“I am turned into a sort of machine for observing facts and grinding out conclusions.” Charles Darwin
Overview of Enneagram Type 4: Individualist, Romantic, Artist
As an Enneagram Type 4, you are authentic, creative, expressive and self-aware. You have the need to express yourself uniquely. Typically, you enjoy expressing your feelings through some creative works such as music, painting, and acting. What you desire are experiences that are rich and meaningful.
“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.” e. e. cummings