Why You May Want to Reconsider the Business Advice of “Charge What You Are Worth”
Many business coaches often have the advice of “charge what you are worth” when it comes to pricing your coaching services. Even though you could be in the midst of getting your business off the ground, they may still recommend that you charge high prices for your time. They assure you that you are worthy and deserving and that at the soul level, you are also of infinite worth. Hence, you are justified to raise your prices since you are “more than enough”.
Admittedly, such advice can stoke anyone’s ego. And since they are your business coaches, you may decide to take their advice by charging a high hourly rate. Yet, in reality, this advice may not be helpful especially if you are not backed by adequate coaching experience or have not been able to generate enough business.
Let’s examine what it means to “charge what you are worth”, so that we can make better sense of the advice.
The Secret to Manifestation that No One Tells You About
When you are trying to decide whether or not to pursue a goal or dream, don’t expect to have absolute guarantee or proof that things will work before you are willing to put in “trust”.
You may be praying for some signs from heaven but you’ve barely heard a squawk. Perhaps you’ve secretly been hoping for some iron-clad assurance that will allay your fears of making a mistake or going down the wrong path but that would be wishful thinking!
Alas, it doesn’t work that way. I’ve been in the same shoes and what I’ve discovered is this: you can wait for assurance but so long as you don’t trust or believe, the dream that you want to see happen will not take place. Nothing would have moved or changed very much.
Instead, the Universe is saying, trust first with aligned actions and the manifestation will follow.
How to Shift from a Scarcity into an Abundance Mindset
Steven Covey in his best-selling book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, first coined the terms of a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset. Scarcity mindset refers to the paradigm of looking at life as finite, as if there is a limited number of pieces in a pie. On the other hand, an abundance mindset refers to the paradigm where there is enough and there is plenty for everyone.
Here’s how Stephen Covey describes the Scarcity Mindset…
Most people are deeply scripted in what I call the Scarcity Mentality. They see life as having only so much, as though there were only one pie out there. And if someone were to get a big piece of the pie, it would mean less for everybody else.
The Scarcity Mentality is the zero-sum paradigm of life. People with a Scarcity Mentality have a very difficult time sharing recognition and credit, power or profit – even with those who help in the production. The also have a a very hard time being genuinely happy for the success of other people.
How You Can Schedule Healthy Money Dates into Your Calendar
A money date is one where you are working on your finances; whether on your own, with your partner or team. It is one where you specify a day and time on your calendar for a money-related activity that is meant to help you consolidate, improve and/or strengthen your personal or joint financial position. It may be that you need to work on
- budgeting for a trip,
- creating a spreadsheet to monitor expenses,
- discussing with your partner on financial options,
- reviewing your earnings,
- finding better ways to minimise tax,
- paying down your loans,
- moving of investment funds between accounts,
- getting updated advice from your financial planner,
- create a financial plan to help you manifest the lifestyle that you want etc.
By scheduling money dates on a regular basis, you are better able to identify gaps, opportunities and ideas instead of making any personal financial activity as a once-a-year event.
EFT Tapping: Release Stress from The Rise in Cost of Living
Feeling the pinch lately?
Noticed that food and oil prices have been rising?
Feeling uneasy, tensed and concerned about the economy and its impact on the value of your money?
Tap along with me to release stress and fear, so that you can step into greater ease and opportunities…
EFT Tapping: From Lack Mentality to Abundance Consciousness
Tend to have a lack mentality?
Does your mind focus on scarcity and “not having enough”?
It’s possible to be focused on the lack and have poverty consciousness even if you have money in the bank and it doesn’t make logical sense to be counting the pennies.
This can happen if your reptilian brain or nervous system is activated in fight-flight-freeze mode and due to past conditioning.
If so, I’d like to invite you to work on letting go of the conditioning.
Tap along with me, so that you can let go of a lack mentality and align with abundance consciousness.
Let me know how the tapping session went for you.
Love and Abundance Always,
Evelyn Lim
Certified EFT & Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner
P.S. Join My Group Tapping Circle here if you’d like to work on your specific issues.
How to Clear Unfinished Business and Reset Your Energy System
When we clear unfinished business, we are better able to reset our energy system or even rebooting it – so that we can invite in new possibilities.
What does it mean to clear unfinished business?
Clearing unfinished business involves letting go of old attachments, meeting unfulfilled promises, and honouring what we said that we would do. We work on clearing unfinished business because these outstanding items can create a drag in our energy system and can potentially be a stopper for starting things on a clean slate.
In terms of agreements, these could be contractual ones that we have made with an external body; such as getting into a housing loan agreement. Or they could be simply promises that we have made to our loved ones and even ourselves. Examples include
- making a commitment for fidelity
- saying “yes” to accompanying our partners for an engagement (even though we are not that interested and prefer to stay home)
- offering to help out a friend
- returning a small debt owed to our parents or relatives
- agreeing to pay our share for a split restaurant bill
- doing our share of household chores etc
It’s easy to forget the “smaller” promises that we have made but over time, these could add up and weigh on us. We repel abundance when we consistently don’t honour what we said we would do. Our promises don’t count if we have no intention of following through.
Unfinished business also can include grievances, hurts and conflicts that have been left unresolved. These create emotional debris. Even though we may not be conscious of them all the time, they take up space in our energetic system.
Learn more about Clearing Unfinished Business Below
Positive Outcomes from Clearing Unfinished Business
There are benefits to clearing up unfinished business as quickly as possible. We wouldn’t want to wait till we are on our deathbed to recall the promises that we’ve not yet kept. It certainly doesn’t serve us to hold on to any outstanding item year after year.
- We even up any score that is left hanging at the back of our subconscious minds when we work on meeting our obligations. At the same time, we also prevent self-sabotage from taking place. In the physical dimension, we follow through with clear intent and action. We are in congruence – body, mind and spirit.
- Our relationship with money improves. Not forgetting, many contracts and agreements involve money. When we keep to the terms of our agreement, we are in integrity. As a result we raise our energetic frequency that brings about more expansiveness, which also supports our ability to attract abundance.
- Relationships with our partners also improve where we honour the promises that we make. Trust increases. We feel more grounded and secure in relationships where both parties keep to their word.
- By releasing old attachments to the past, we create space for new relationships or to rejuvenate existing ones. Clearing unfinished business may require us to cut cords with negative or toxic people in our lives, let go of old grievances, practice forgiveness and move on to creating new and more fulfilling relationships.
What To Do Next: Create a List of Outstanding Items for Unfinished Business
Here are some reflection questions for you…
- What are the promises that you have made to yourself or others that you haven’t quite met?
- Are there any contracts or agreements that you have said “yes” to but there are remaining terms that you have not quite followed through on?
- Any outstanding debts or loans to attend to? How is your plan to meet your obligations like?
- Any old relationship ties that you need to say good-bye to?
- Any grievances or grudges to resolve?
- What past emotional baggage does it serve your highest interest to let go of?
Once you’ve created a list, prioritise the items according to how much lighter and freer you are going to feel as a result of clearing it. Create an action plan for working through the list and also specifying dates and timelines. Check off your list as you complete the items.
Clearing unfinished business is one of the modules in my course on Changing Your Relationship with Money. Alternatively, apply for a discovery call if you need personal help to work on clearing unfinished business.
Create more energetic space to invite in the new!
Love and abundance always,
Evelyn
Abundance Coach for Women Solopreneurs
How Nellie Released Limiting Money Blocks to Client Attraction and Authentic Selling
I was helping a client (let’s call her Nellie, not her real name) clarify the ideal client that she’d like to work with, when we discovered that she was having some limiting money blocks about people who are wealthy.
Nellie’s line of work requires her to service the needs of wealthy individuals or at least people with excess funds. If she releases her subconscious blocks, client attraction can potentially happen with greater ease. It will certainly help Nellie to have more clients as the extra income that she gets can go a long way to supporting her family with two young kids. Since her beliefs could be in the way for client attraction and business sales, we proceeded to work on releasing the limiting money blocks.
Childhood Situation that Created Limiting Money Blocks
When I asked Nellie what some of her discomfort was reminding her of, she recalled two childhood incidents when she was 11 years old that had left her feeling lousy, disgusted and ashamed.
Continue reading6 Daily Gratitude Prompts for Shifting into an Abundance Mindset
I’d like to invite you to adopt a practice of daily gratitude, if you are interested to shift into an abundance mindset.
Gratitude IS the gateway to abundance.
When we are thankful, our attention is on the blessings that we have in our life. In that moment of expressing our gratitude, we are not focused on any worry, blame, frustration etc.
By virtue of the Law of Attraction, the sustained joy that we feel from reminding ourselves about our blessings sends out a positive vibe to the Universe that helps us to draw more of the same.
Here’s a graphical representation on how a practice of gratitude compounds and brings you dividends in terms of financial well-being. Obviously, while we can start with a 10-day or a 21-day challenge, it is best that we can make the practice very much a part of our life going forward. 
3 Powerful Steps to Manifesting from the Inside-Out
What “manifesting from the inside-out” means is to create the physical reality that we want by using the power of the mind. Most of us think of manifesting in a positive light, even though it is also possible to manifest a negative set of outcomes. When perceiving things positively, we hope to manifest our ideal or dream life, or even a breakthrough.
With an inside-out approach, we manifest the results we want in the external world by taking charge of what goes on internally; namely our thoughts and feelings. We don’t have 100% control of external factors but we can certainly begin by taking charge of our mind. However, as we are likely to discover, what is often in the way for successful manifestation are our limiting beliefs and negative emotions.
When I coach my clients on manifesting from the inside-out, I like to keep things simple with a 3-step system. The 3 steps form the backbone of my coaching-and-healing sessions with them. They are as follows…
1) Reset Your Intentions
2) Release Your Limitations
3) Rewrite Your Story