How to Let Go of Wanting to Let Go Of Emotions Fast

When You Haven’t Let Go of Your Negative Emotions Completely

You could go on with the false pretence of having “let it go”.   But eventually, weeks or months later, you may just find that there is still something amiss.  

Or it could be that you thought you’ve let it go, but you find yourself back at the same spot.   That your heart is still hurting.

That you are still in pain. 

You are still feeling an ache.  

And horror of horrors….that it is still about the same issue *gasp*   

You may go into more blame, disappointment or resentment. 

At this point, take a step back and breathe….

It’s not the fault of your therapist, coach or counsellor that the task of “letting go” she was supposed to help you with is not 100% complete.

After all, her advice is not wrong since it is true that letting go fast and completely sets anyone free.

She’s done the best she could to help you with “letting go of emotions”.   Nor is it your fault that you are still not letting go.   Then again, can it be that fast to “let it go”?

Like in a split second or even 60 mins during a session?   Yes, it can be.

I’ve seen it happen with clients.

Or even for myself.

Thus it is possible to get over an ex or the hurt that you felt when your friends don’t appreciate you, quickly enough.

But in some cases, things can take longer.  

These cases happen to have deeper roots.

Or have more aspects that you have not addressed.

How to Let Go of the “Wanting”

For whatever your unique circumstance may be and wherever you are this moment…and if your mind and heart is not in congruence…

What can help is to acknowledge is that you’re still NOT ready to let this go completely.

Recognise that any wanting to speed up healing comes from the ego. 

Your heart just needs more love and attention. 

Give Yourself the Permission to Feel Fully 

Instead, start with a gentle invitation.

It’s about giving yourself the permission to feel.

It’s about feeling what your heart feels fully.

So if there is fear about looking at deeper fears, it involves mustering the courage to be even more vulnerable than you’ve ever been.

Remember…
– There is NO rush.
– There are no datelines to meet.
– There is no need to achieve any “goal of happiness”.

Rather, it’s about giving yourself the safety (instead of shame) to work through this.

It’s grace that you are giving, in your sacred heart space. 

Threading mindfully, reading the fine lines, discovering the nuances.

Giving your heart the resolution that it still needs.

It’s the greatest gift that you can ever give to yourself: self-love healing.    The permission to feel deeply is really the permission to be alive. In so being, you are integrating love in your human experience – love in the now. 

Shine Your Brilliance, 
Evelyn Lim
Self-Love Healing Specialist