How to Handle Financial Woes After a Relationship Break Up

“Never let a past relationship tear your heart apart and rob you of joy from living in the present.” Evelyn Lim

You long for a fairy tale ending.

You want things to turn out perfect.

In your dreams, you see yourself living happily and abundantly ever after.

However, should your relationship not turn out the way you hope it would, you feel utterly disappointed.

Your heart sinks.

The blue skies turn grey.

Emotional Woes When Your Perfect Relationship Breaks Down

Not that it is abnormal to experience bitterness, grief, and blame.

It is.

It is very human to experience negative emotions when your hopes and dreams are dashed.

But what happens if you cannot get over the failure of your relationship?

Your heart is not just torn apart. It has been shattered into a thousand pieces.

Well, without release, you could end up carrying your emotional burden around. It happens when you try to put up a brave front. No one has a clue to how badly you had been feeling.

It is very possible to become so used to lugging the weight around that you become unaware of how heavy it becomes with the passing of time.

Unfortunately, the sense of failure can obstruct your ability to manifest abundance.

When your inner struggle is about being disappointed with life, life mirrors back your inner disappointment in external situations. Even though your relationship is long past, you experience outcomes such as financial struggles that leave you feeling bitter, poor and miserable. On deeper investigation, you will realize that this relates to how you usually respond to life’s disappointments. And how you respond could have something to do with your past.

Real Life Cases

Well, this was what happened to my client with whom I was helping last week. My words must have hit home that day, for it opened the floodgates for her. Her tears fell copiously. Applying the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), I “tapped”; facilitating an emotional release for her.

Her pain was great. She had taken a leap of faith, and pursued work and a relationship in a foreign land. When her relationship ended, she was left cold and far away from home. Money issues started to surface from having no place to stay and little savings to fall back on. Her financial situation failed to improve even after a year or two. She felt as if she had hit rock bottom.

Which also reminds me of another client whom I have helped some time ago. She thought that she had married the perfect man. To her shock, she found out that her spouse had been cheating on her for years. At first, she wanted to forgive him for the sake of her two children. However, he refused to stop seeing the other woman.

In the ensuing divorce, my client had to pick up the pieces. She had become financially dependent on her husband ever since her first girl was born. It was a struggle initially. Even though he had a job that paid well, he would find excuses to avoid paying alimony. She felt drowned in a sea of bills and debt; and not to mention, abandoned.

Financial Woes After a Relationship Break Up

As it can be seen, the ending of a relationship can spell a change in financial situation.

Not only do you have to handle a broken heart, you may also need to deal with a not-enough-money situation. Money stops flowing easily into your life. It is a disempowering state that you find yourself in. Your financial situation now becomes a critical area to solve as your ability to survive gets threatened.

Unfortunately, not many people realize that hours of counselling might not sufficiently overcome a situation that has deep-rooted causes. Repeating the same account of our failed love story over and over again, without any core release work done at our subconscious, can only do one thing: it keeps us stuck. Repetition results in programming. We end up programming ourselves with a negative story. And by virtue of the universal law of attraction, guess what we are going to continue to attract?

It may appear that the best way forward is not to dwell in the past. On the contrary, it is very healthy to surface your suppressed emotions, so that you are able to free ourselves from your past. Once released safely, you no longer have your past hold us back from manifesting the abundance that you deserve. This is best done in an energetic and therapeutic way that promotes real healing; such as, applying EFT tapping.

Ultimately, we need to ask ourselves what is the deeper emotional story to the pain that we are carrying. It is the deeper emotional story that holds the secrets to transcendence. With sixth chakra insight, we discern what the divine lessons of the situation are and from there, integrate the lessons in a better way forward.

Perhaps, Taylor Swift has a thing or two to teach us about making a financial gain in the process.