10 Rules for Being Human: Review
The 10 Rules for Being Human may have been written years ago by Cherie Carter-Scott but they are universal guidelines that apply so long as you are in a physical life. You can find the 10 Rules in Carter-Scott’s book – If Life is a Game, These are the Rules: 10 Rules for Being Human.
“If life is a game, these are the Rules….” – Cherie Carter-Scott
{Review of the 10 Rules for Being Human are in this post below}
As someone who helps others discover what their life lessons are in their journey, I find myself appreciating these 10 Rules very much.
Helen Keller once said, “Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” Indeed, once you become aware of the lesson that you have failed to recognise previously, a shift happens. Knowing the 10 rules keeps you alert to the lessons.
I would like to review the 10 Rules for Being Human and add some of my thoughts as follows….
Enneagram Type 8: Positive Affirmations for the Path of Growth
Overview of the Enneagram Type 8: The Challenger, Leader, Protector, Boss
If you are an Enneagram type 8, you are open, direct, driven, strong-willed and all powerful. The thrill of breaking barriers excites you. Taking pride in overcoming adversity, you love taking on challenges. You understand what it takes to reach great heights and you seek to develop strength, tenacity and resilience. Nothing deters you.
You are also charismatic. With strong persuasive abilities, you possess an innate ability to influence others to follow your lead in endeavours such as waging wars, starting a new company, managing a task force and so on. You have a commander’s aura.
“I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.
If not, it can’t be helped.” — Fritz Perls
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Enneagram Type 4: Positive Affirmations for Path of Growth
Overview of Enneagram Type 4: Individualist, Romantic, Artist
As an Enneagram Type 4, you are authentic, creative, expressive and self-aware. You have the need to express yourself uniquely. Typically, you enjoy expressing your feelings through some creative works such as music, painting, and acting. What you desire are experiences that are rich and meaningful.
“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.” e. e. cummings
How to Spot 10 Warning Signs of Narcissism in Your Partner
Someone with signs of narcissism is described as extremely self-centered. The narcissist is predominantly preoccupied with thoughts of “I, me, myself or mine”. Egoistical, he (or she) strives to be in a superior position. What differentiates narcissism from other forms of behaviour is sadism. The narcissist tends to disparage and belittle others.
Like many other conditions, narcissism occurs in a spectrum. At its most extreme, it is known as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This article covers content that pertains to individuals with narcissistic tendencies. For an accurate diagnosis, please consult with a trained mental health professional.
“Unconscious people – and many remain unconscious, trapped in their egos throughout their lives – will quickly tell you who they are: their name, their occupation, their personal history, the shape or state of their body, and whatever else they identify with.” – Eckhart Tolle
I was speaking to a client the other day. Michelle (pseudonym) has been feeling rather battered by her husband. From her descriptions, it appears that her husband is someone who has narcissistic traits. Of course, her sense of self-worth and self-love were not high to begin with.
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10 Depression Symptoms: Warning Signs to Look Out For
Depression symptoms are more intense than just fleeting moments of sadness. It is human to feel blue every now and then but when it comes to depression, you are in a vibrationally low state of being for an extended period. Over time, you could identify yourself with your depression symptoms so much that living with them feels normal.
Being depressed creates energy leakage. When severe, you can possibly lose the ability to function and to perform the most routine of tasks. You would rather confine yourself in your cave.
When sinking into despair becomes severe, it can turn into clinical depression. In extreme cases, depression can drive a person to suicide. This was what happened to my friend, Arch.
“Depression is the inability to construct a future.” – Rollo May
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25 Labels in Your Negative Self Talk
Labels used in negative self talk can restrict you from being your fullest potential. They are the names you mentally call yourself in your head. Unfavourable outcomes result when you identify who you are with these labels.
Labels can be positive or negative. While it helps to use labels for describing something, they can also be rather restrictive. By identifying yourself with them, whether positive or negative, you prevent yourself from discovering your true essence. Still, it is the labels in negative self talk that create the most problems for us.
How To Let Go of The Past
Not being able to let go of the past can keep you stuck for years. The suffering of holding on keeps your stories alive. Attachment drives you into heartache. In fact, over time, you could have also gotten used to the suffering. So much so that you may even feel lost at the thought of becoming free from pain.
(Photo: Singapore Botanic Gardens)
It is possible to fear that there will be emptiness when you let go of the past. You are not sure what could be left of you if all the anger, hurt and resentment is gone. After all, you have defined yourself by the stories you believe in. You may think that it is better to cling on the old stories because you fear losing your identity. Well, as I had discovered, this is erroneous thinking.Continue reading
How to Open Your Heart to Love
Find it difficult to open your heart? If happens when you cut off your feelings. It could be that you have been dealing with life mostly from your head. There is a certain disconnection about you that others can sense. Others may even call you cold. You believe it to be mostly true for you do not recall shedding a tear even while watching the most tragic scene in the Titanic movie.
“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.”
– Oscar Wilde
Very likely, your difficulty stems from past trauma. You have been hurt real bad previously. So your resourceful subconscious mind protects you with a shield around your heart. It is so thick that little love can penetrate through.
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The Practice of Self-Compassion
Practising self compassion may be something that you are not used to.
After all, you could be having h the habit of beating yourself up all your life. In your experience, you have found harsh criticisms extremely useful as a motivator for actions. It is how you have made yourself get out of bed every morning.
You may perceive self compassion as being indulgent. You would not dream of giving excuses for your wretched state. You see self-compassion as disempowering. Hence, taking a tough stance towards the self is important.
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Self Love Series: Installing Love on the Human Computer
A customer ran into some computer problems and called the help desk for assistance. Here was how the conversation went….
Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?
Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?
(Picture of my daughter, Hui)
Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?
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