How do you begin to improve your relationship with money?
In this updated post, I’d like to share a way that is easy to understand and relate to. This update also covers one of the topics that I am teaching in my Relationship with Money Course.
What can be helpful is to think of a romantic relationship. And in every romantic relationship, there are stages. So, consider the different phases that a romantic relationship will go through; that is from dating to developing love and true intimacy. Next, draw on the understanding to apply it in the context of your relationship with money.
In a workshop I attended more than 10 years ago, there was a spoon bending exercise that I can still recall today. I’m updating this post with photos of the spoons that I have kept on my desk.
During the exercise, we were handed some metal spoons and asked to bend them – not by using the hands but by the power of our minds.
Nancy, the facilitator, offered this advice, “Be One with The Spoon”.
“Sounds like mambo jumbo,” I could hear my skeptic saying.
How do you BE One with a Spoon, for crying out loud???
The weekend had culminated with an exercise that required us to bend a metal spoon, not by brute force but by the mental focus of thought. Nancy shared that we, be it spoon or human, are made up of energy. Therefore, instead of viewing ourselves as separate from another matter, we are One. Through the awareness that we are One, it was suggested that we could alter the appearance of the metal spoon.
According to psychologists, every adult has an inner child.
Your wounded inner child is that part of you that never grew up, even though you are now an adult. She may be your younger self as a newborn or a 6 year old. If she is wounded, it means that she has been holding on to hurt, disappointment, pain or any negative emotions, and her needs have not been met.
If the needs of your inner child remain unresolved, it can potentially affect your mental well-being and relationships. Thus, inner child healing is a crucial part to deep psychological work. It involves the spiritual process of reconnecting to the wounded elements of your inner child.
Here are 7 indicative signs that you need self-love healing which involves “meeting” your inner child…
A scarcity paradigm puts you in lack and limitation. You view the world through a lens of “not enough”. Hence, a positive shift – which improves your vibrational state of being – is required to attract a new reality that is more positive and empowering. When you make a shift by changing your beliefs, thoughts and feelings, you are using an inside-out approach.
In your move towards higher consciousness, you are likely to discover a new set of beliefs that do not necessarily conform to societal held ideas. These new ideas are not about struggling to work hard, joining any network marketing program, or selling health supplements. No goal setting, strategising, or heavy mental activity is needed for the most part.
(This article is a repost and has been updated in 2021).
2020 has been a difficult year for most. Against the backdrop of confusion, chaos and challenges, I reviewed the happenings that took place, in order to redesign plans for a new year ahead.
As 2020 comes to an end, I’d like to invite you to do the following too… What’s your review for 2020 like? What were your 3 most important lessons learnt? How can you pivot your life and business for a stronger 2021 ahead?
May 2021 be a better year for you.
To your success, health and happiness! Love and abundance always, Evelyn Lim
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If you run a coaching, energy healing or solopreneur business, you cannot neglect or ignore being visible online.
And if you are an introvert and have the tendency to hide, this post is meant specially for you!
Specifically, the fear of being visible can be about
the fear of being seen online,
the fear of feeling exposed,
feeling vulnerable,
imposter syndrome or feeling like a “fraud”,
fear of success,
fear of being ridiculed in public,
fear of not being accepted for your views, and so on.
If you have the fear of being visible online, it can impact you on the business front in the following ways….
can’t show up on videos,
can’t confidently market your products and services,
can’t network and build a group of business associates and friends online,
avoid giving interviews,
stops you from achieving better success in your marketing activities,
can’t conduct online classes or webinar trainings,
can’t ask to be paid for your services,
set low prices for your products and services etc.
Overall, the fear of being visible online stops you from being more successful in your business. This has an impact on your bottom line!
Here’s a fact that you can’t run away from:
If you want 24/7 consistent free traffic and for your marketing activities to be effective, you will need to do video marketing.
Which just means that you need to be visible online.
Why You Need to Do Video Marketing
Showing up on video allows you to create and share valuable content with your audience in a way that plain text will never match.
Here are some stats that you need to be aware of….
Get the picture after having an idea about what being visible can do for you?
If you don’t do video marketing, you are at a severe disadvantage.
Indeed, people buy based on emotional connection.
By showing up on video, you are better able to create trust and connection with your audience. Video marketing simply helps you create visibility that will assist you with generating leads and gaining clients.
My Story of the Fear of Being Visible Online
As an introvert, I used to struggle with showing my face online. I felt self-conscious and vulnerable, as if everyone will get to finally see the real me and not like what they see. And so, I used being “an introvert” and that it is not my personality, as the perfect excuse for not showing up.
I recall the times when I almost threw up, felt faint and going through severe nervous tension just at the thought of needing to be visible. It was that bad for me. I was totally resistant to being visible online!
Later, I discovered that my excuses were not helping me to reach out to more people. In fact, I found out that becoming visible was more a matter of boosting confidence than anything else. It’s still possible to be an introvert and show up on videos, in other words! Fast forward till today, I have been able to show up with more ease and confidence!
3 Tips on How You Can Beat the Fear of Being Visible Online
If you are held back from achieving your goals by your fear of being visible, I’d like to share with you 3 tips that you can apply…
(1) Start small by being visible online to a small audience.
You can change your settings on your FB profile, youtube or instagram to just private or a small group of friends. Or you can also set up a small facebook group and post your videos there. Alternatively, you can find facebook groups where you can feel safe to create posts. Gradually work up your confidence to showing up and being more visible online!
(2) Repeat some positive affirmations.
Give yourself a positive boost with using affirmations that are going to support you. For example, you can use the following… – I am open to being seen and heard online. – I am a powerful communicator. – I choose to feel safe to be visible online.
(3) Boost Your Confidence.
Let’s face it. Without confidence, it is going to hamper your ability to be more productive and effective in your social media activities. Hence, you need to start with working on yourself. It’s about transforming from the inside-out.
Very importantly, you don’t just want confidence to be based on external factors but I recommend that you want to build Authentic Confidence, showing up as your true self, without any false pretences. Authentic Confidence boosts your ability to generate Cash Flow!
Take Action Right Away with Beating The Fear of Being Visible Online
My course, Authentic Confidence Mastery, is designed to help you create self awareness, align with what you want and to release your fears that are in the way.
It is an invitation to give yourself the permission to shine!
Do you often say to yourself, “I am not good enough?”
Maybe your self-talk goes like this…”I am not good enough to be this”, “I am not good enough to do this” or “I am not good enough to have this”?
Well, if you are a coach, energy healer and solopreneur – like myself – then it is imperative that you address the belief.
As I have discovered, “I’m not good enough” or self-esteem issues can hold us back from putting ourselves out there, be the leader that we want to be, generate better income, connect with clients, improve relationships, enhance physical health and so on. Continue reading
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What happens if you don’t even know you have mindset blocks?
What are the signs?
To begin with, why is even important to identify whether you have mindset blocks or not?
Well, for a start, mindset blocks can keep you stuck or struggling more than you need to. It obstructs your success. A mindset block arises when you have the story of “I want to achieve this goal or dream but (the reason)”. You may even have more than one “but” on why you can’t achieve what you want.
Invariably, the reason behind the “but” stems from a limiting belief. Your “but this” or “but that” are actually excuses. Excuses are a form of self-sabotage.
