Launch News: Self-Love Secrets eBook

I would like to announce the coming launch of my digital book, Self Love Secrets. The launch is slated to be on October 25, 2011. I am so excited! Click here for a peek into the website >>>

It has been quite a few months since I first announced that I would be writing a book on Self-Love. Well, it took me longer than I expected. I have to admit that I had no clear idea back then what I was going to write. I soon found out that it was not as simple as compiling a bunch of tips.
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How to Practice Non-Attachment in 7 Ways

Admittedly, non-attachment can be difficult to apply. Some people such as monks dedicate their whole lives to making it a practice. However, this does not mean that renunciation in order to release your “suffering” is necessary for you to practice non-attachment.

In fact, if you continue to use religious disciplines to hold on to your identity, then you are yet on the path of genuine spiritual growth. So long as you are holding on to something such that it causes you grief and pain, you are having an attachment. Your ego is interested in clinging on to some form of identification.
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What Are The Differences Between Attachment, Detachment and Non-Attachment?

Perhaps, you have come to realize that attachment can be the one thing that is preventing you from manifesting the results you want. So it is that you are already working towards your dream but you cannot help but feel all sorts of negative emotions ranging from anxiety, fear, lack and frustration in the meantime. Your journey is turning out to be extremely painful.

Unfortunately, your negative state works against having the Law of Attraction in your favor. You attract more of “not having” instead of “having”. You even start to doubt if your ultimate desire or dream is ever going to materialize.

Hence, you have been wondering how to reconcile having desires and at the same time, be non-attached to the ultimate object or outcome of your desires. After all, with a desire, you will want to see yourself in possession of it. You hope that what you wish for will come true. It seems hard not to be attached to the results that you wish to experience, especially when your desire is a strong one. And didn’t Law of Attraction proponents suggest that having a strong desire as important for manifestation?
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Detect Daily Anxiety Symptoms To Avoid Energy Leakage

Anxiety symptoms are pretty common, considering that we live in a fast-paced environment. Anxiety-ridden, we find it hard to cope with the stresses of life. We become anxious when we fear that we cannot catch up, feel overwhelmed by the amount of incoming information, do not know how to make a decision and perceive a looming threat to our security.

Then again, anxiety symptoms are also known to be pretty normal, as they are part of the natural “fight or flight” reaction to stress or danger. Hence, there cannot be any human who has not felt anxiety at all. ‘

I certainly have experienced anxiety enough times myself. In particular, with what is going on in the world today, anxiety reportedly is at heightened levels once again. Many people are experiencing mental health stress.
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5 Tips to Practising Persistence for Success

There is a Buddhist saying that underscores the importance of practising persistence for success, “In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins – not through strength, but through persistence.” I like that it draws on nature to explain a fundamental idea about persistence.

(From my art journal: On practicing persistence)

Notwithstanding, if you have been reading personal development books, you will realize that persistence is an important key to a winning mindset. Repeatedly, you have been advised to follow up on your dream until you have attained success.
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What Are You Manifesting?

The Life Adventures I Have Manifested

I have got exciting news. I am one of the authors in a new book that is coming out. It is called Adventures in Manifesting: Success and Spirituality.

Talk about manifesting! This is the year when my dream about becoming an author to a worldwide audience has come true. Not only once but by the end of the year, three times! And not just that!!
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Body Image: Take A Look In the Mirror

Body image is how you see yourself when you look in the mirror.

Fat. Thin. Big. Small. Wide. Narrow. Tall. Short. Flat. Sharp. Curvy. Flabby. Nose. Feet. Eyes. Arms. Tummy. Chin. Butt. Thighs. Acne. Stretch marks. Blemish. Mole. Skin. Birthmark.

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Are you focused on the best parts of the reflection of your body or does your mind zoom in on the parts that are imperfect? Do you see the reflection of someone smiling or frowning back at you? Are you happy with the way you look? (For a list of related questions, you may want to consider taking a Self-Love Quiz, if you have not already done so.)
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How to Overcome the Fear of Success

It sounds ridiculous that anyone can have the fear of success. However, the fear of success is as psychologically valid as the fear of failure. In fact, the fear of success is often not as easily detectable because it lies in your subconscious. It is through recognizing repeated self-sabotaging behavior that you can possibly deduce that you may just be having this fear.

There is a difference between the fear of success and the fear of failure. The fear of failure is the fear of making mistakes, fear of falling short and fear of not reaching your intended goal. Conversely, the fear of success is the deliberate (although rooted in the subconscious) subversion to success that you already know is reachable.
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5 Life Areas of Self-Sabotage

Self-sabotage is an unconscious subversion, disruption or obstruction to hinder your own cause or endeavour. You consciously have a desired outcome but you work against yourself unconsciously. And hence, you have been putting obstacles in your own path to success.

“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.”
– Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

Through words, actions or behaviour, you make things worse instead of better. Instead of becoming the best you can be or having the best that you can have, you eventually find yourself having to settle for less. It is certainly not desirable if you are hoping to live life fully.

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Practice The Hugging Meditation To Express Love

I came across The Hugging Meditation by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh recently and was blown away by its simplicity, beauty and grace. I believe that anyone can practice it. It does not require one to sit in an attempt to still the mind, an activity which can be frustrating for someone new to meditation. The Hugging Meditation is found in the his Plum Village Chanting and Recitation Book.

(My kids experienced great joy from Hugging Meditation.)

Thich Nhah Hanh is a Vietnamese Buddhist monk, teacher, author, poet and peace activist who now lives in France. His graceful and simple way of conveying his teachings has helped made Buddhism and meditation appealing throughout the world. I had the privilege of attending his talk when he came to Singapore.
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